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Good grief! Well again - you are NOT trying to steal his family away from him you are merely maintaining some rather long standing friendships with people he happens to be related to. His getting kicked out of the house had NOTHING to do with you maintaining contact with his family. He sounds very paranoid to me.

It seems to me that he thinks that as long as you are involved with his family you will remain the good guy and he is the bad guy. If he can just get you the "good guy" out of the picture then the family will begin to like him again because on the surface it will look like you abandoned them and he hung in there.

Not sure you have to deal with this though. You can simply choose to ignore it and be friends with whoever your choose.

BA

Honestly, I don't think he deserves any kind of reply to that. He stated his opinion, you stated yours. You are both entitled to it. But going back to the original issue, you can each socialize with whomever you wish. You wouldn't ask him to stay away from your family if he were friendy with them, right?

I love how it basically boils down to it's all my fault and his dad's fault that he such strained Rs with his mom, sister, and grandmother.

The last paragraph would have put me into hysterics if I wasn't so mad. Be friends with me or else. *rolls eyes*

I haven't told him anything about who he talks to. If he wanted to still be friends with my brother or something, I wouldn't say anything as long as I wasn't invited to the same things. But it'll never be an issue cuz he's too shamed and guilty to want anything to do with my family.

XH filter in place in e-mail, all messages sent to XH folder instead of inbox.

Going to send short response to his message after I think over what to say and let him know I am blocking him on facebook and tell him once again to leave me alone.

I am trying to figure out if you are the Palestenian and he is the Israeli.

I think so!! Self-righteous and outnumbered definitely describes how he feels in this world LMAO. Course both sides are pretty self-righteous in any conflict.

Sent this and blocked him:

We are not a couple of far-away countries. We are two people, and we are not at war. I feel there is no reason we cannot peaceably co-exist in our separate lives.

I asked you not to bring me into the problems are you having. They are your issues, and since we are divorced they are not mine to fix.

I appreciate that you want to share your feelings, but I am not the one you should be sharing them with. Good luck with talking this over with your family.

As for you and I, I have accepted that you wanted out of our relationship and have moved on with my life.

I don't think there is any reason why I need or want to communicate with you . If you try to message me, I will not be receiving them any longer because I have chosen to have them blocked.

Good bye and good luck in your future life.

Oh I think she is the Israeli!! You go girl, I wouldn't want to be on your bad side(lol).

kat

I absolutely love your response!

I bet he does not like it though.

LOL

I am sure. But hopefully I will not have to hear about it!

I blocked him on facebook. Added a filter to my e-mail. And can ignore any calls/texts from him.

I am not fighting with him. I am Switzerland!

I like the knives your army makes, but I prefer to buy Portland area made knives - Leatherman, Gerber and Fiskar.