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He might not even be aware that she is in contact with you. Gosh, Mandy, he surely did land in a nest of vipers, and possibly he knows it, but has no way out. Poor man. I kinda feel sorry for him, but he went into that vipers' nest with his eyes open, so he has only himself to blame.

Take care.

BeingMe, I totally agree I have to admit I do still feel sorry for the total idiot, he is losing hands down, the main he as lost is his son, but he took the choice and wasnt forced there, it is an awful feeling that he has created all this mess and for such an awful piece of work, his choice he will have to live with the choices he made. poor man. anyhow on a lighter note, sons bank accounts did appear and are all sorted so neither of them can get their hands on what is rightfully son's, wonder if she knew ex could have accessed the money if it would have still been there, we may never know but at least it is safe now, and thank god it never got touched, but you see even down to that, one of them has been in the banks and changed the address to theirs instead of sons since we have been left, ex couldnt even call or text and let me know this had happened, he must either really hate me or is so full of guilt and shame cant face talking to me whether it to do with son or not. we will continue to watch the show,

Hoo boy, Mandy! It must feel like a real victory for you and your son getting his bank accounts. Bit by bit things are coming your way. I remember how awful it was when you were faced with the eviction, and had to move. You have been through the fire and come out the other side stronger than ever. You have been such a fantastic example to your son. I hope, though, that one day he can be reconciled to his father, in some way.

Thinking of ya!

I hope so too, thanks BeingMe

as I sit back and watch the show, I dont know if I am lending too much thought to things about this at the moment, not that I intend to, but, things I hear and see are, 1: all ex's inheritance is supposed to have gone due to the fact that a family member is gonna loan him some to pay me off, 2: it is killing him and making him ill, he is a broken man because he as a son that wont bother with him, albeit it was ex's own fault. 3: the property we lived in wont sell so he wants to take it off the market and rent it out. 4: hes admitting to making a mistake not contacting son but tells new wifey he as lost everyone. 5: today I see an application as been made to dissolve the company that she set him up in, that I never believed was a company only a tax dodge. what I am trying to say so many things are going wrong for ex is this what is meant when it gets to bottom, it appears everything he as got into with her is going wrong, so the grass isnt greener she is no superwoman afterall, there has to be a breaking point with this guy.

When you lay it out like that, Mandy, one can see how the grass is not only not greener, it's non-existent. I wonder if he is sorry about all that has ocurred. Proof that he has learnt his lesson and is truly repentant though, is the day when he has the balls, courage and the humbleness to approach you and son and actually apologize for all he has put y'all through, in person. At this point, he is still in his cave, hiding from all he has done, from the consequences thereof, letting the OW wife do as she pleases. He may be ashamed of his actions (although there is no proof of this), but he sure doesn't care enough about his son (or you, for that matter) to come out and say sorry.

I guess dissolving the company means there is nothing left for which to dodge the taxman? Just waiting for when she dissolves the marriage and takes what's left. She'll leave all debts for your XH to sort out I'm sure.

As Mr. T used to say, "I pity the man".

This does seem to be one huge show, 'eh! Take care.

Mandy, its playing out pretty much the way you called it love. Looks like this OW has sucked him dry and here he is hanging out in the breeze. Don't expect an apology from him anytime soon Mandy. Its been my experience that these people would die, face starvation, and live in absolute misery before they would ever admit wrong.

BeingMe and Braveheart, I thank you both for your replies, I personally think he is going to have to grow a rather big pair of balls before he can even contact me or son, to do what he as done especially to son is something so huge I dont think he will ever be able to face either one of us again, it is one thing to walk out and have a crisis it is another not to contact your only child but it is something extra huge to make that child homeless. I dont know I will keep watching the show, thing is it definately isnt going the way he was wanting with new wifey, he has to have some regrets but I dont think we will ever get to see them, he will probably stick it out with her as he will feels he as done so much wrong and that she is the only person that he as left in the world, his doing not mine, we will wait and see what the future holds, no one knows and all I can say is I hold no hope, the only thing I would wish for is for son to be able to have a relationship with his dad someday.

That would be lovely and all most of us LBSers wish for yet so many MLCers either abandon or greatly minimize their contact with their children. Hope your ex finds a way to reconnect in a healthy way.

But, will she stick with him, is the real question, 'eh??? She is a strange fish, that one.

Take care.

I know your probably all going to shout at me and knock me back into shape but I want to ask you all that bother to reply to me, who thinks it is a bad idea for me to hold out an olive branch to this guy. I know I know what you are all going to say, it is just today something in my head keeps on telling me that what he as done he as done, I know he is having it bad and yes I agree that is what he got himself into, the thing is I dont want him thinking he cant ever talk to me and I think this is the only way him and son will ever have a relationship is if we can manage to be friendly, I am probably just being stupid, I would never have him back but I dont want him thinking he cant call me because I wont talk to him, dont worry I dont intend doing it straight away I will wait for your views, it could just be my head playing havoc with me, thanks in anticipation