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"Wife, I can't stop you from divorcing me or carrying on your affair. You texting him in our home is disrespectful to me and my family. If you continue to do this then you will be out of the house. I will pack up all your belongings and put them in the garage."

Be prepared for spew. Hold your ground.

Hi Coach,

What else can I say besides I put you out of the house. I don't think with her earning the money right now that I will have much success with this approach. I need to do something and soon. We live in an apartment too.

I am just going crazy today, and I need to focus on my two job interviews that I have.

Do this!!^^^^^^^^^^

I know it's hard with everything else going on, but you need to do this for you. How much better will you feel about yourself if you landed a job? You would feel so much better and be better equipped to handle the enormous amount of stress you are under right now.

Good luck and know that I am pulling for you on all fronts!

IDU,

Thank you for the motivation. It did get me going to do the best I could do. I believe that I did a really good job of selling myself without sounding desperate in anyway.

I have a really good chance to land this job, and the recruiter thinks so too. He is in my corner. I think you are right that it will help me to deal with a lot of the stress that I have going on right now. It will give a boost of confidence too. It is my last day tomorrow with the census, so I need some more money too.

I will be meeting with my attorney either Monday or Tuesday of next week, so that will help too.

I hope to have a job soon, and I am so excited about that.

I am distressed to find out that my W is sleeping with another guy too. OM #2 is in the picture. It is becoming so disgusting to me. I just do not get. I think there may be other guyes too. I won't say how I know. Tonight was her first night with OM #2, and I am sick to my stomach. What happened to the beautiful, sweet W I met and fell in love with, and still love.

It just makes me ache all over. I am sick inside.

I try to be my best for my kids, and but I don't know how much more I can handle of this. She still treats me like sh!t. It is very depressing to me. I have to be strong and quiet, but I just want to tell how much she makes me want to puke at what she is doing, and how she thinks she is best for the kids. I am the only constant in their lives. I am here for them every second of everyday.

I do not know what more to say.

Oh, how does everyone see her as this sweet and innocent woman that is hurting me and her kids everyday. Someone, please make me understand. I am villified for only having no job which I am closer to having ever since I am following my own decisions, and not hers. I take care and love my kids, and all I ever did was love my wife enought to give up my own dreams and desires for hers. How does this work? I need some real understanding of the world because I don't get it anymore. What I thought was the way life should be, does not seem real to me anymore.

I guess just venting. Maybe I need answers that I have no answers.

I just wish my prayers would be answered for me and the kids that our family could survive this. I know it is over, though.

W is coming home later and later again. It was around 8:30 p.m. tonight. I am glad because I don't have to see her, and I am able to spend more time with the kids. I like that so much. However, I hate the fact she is probably at some hotel room with another man. I guess it won't be my problem here soon.

It will be good for me to move on. I want her gone so bad from my life, but I want the kids in my life all the time. They deserve a parent that is fully committed to them.

Your starting to sound like James217. She made your decision for you, your done with her at least for now.

I know, right. It is true I sounded pretty bad that day. I am better today, and I am ready for the marriage to be over for good. It is time to move on. She is worse than ever. I am just going to do my best to detach and be done with it.

I just needed to get out those feelings in writing to move on.

LSG,

Isn't it like they turned into the devil? LOL. You may as well laugh about it.

She has turned in to this person that seems so horrible and evil. She thinks that the OM is so perfect. I just wish she would she what a piece sh!t he is.

Oh well, I do not want to go that route today. I am trying to be done with her and my old life. I need to detach and move on.

Son has conjunctivitis in his eyes, and it is just making the situation worse at home because she is trying to be the good and parent and make herself look good. I just want to help our son. It is so hard on me right now to deal with sons problems with her attitude about everything.

I hope the weekend will be over soon, so I don't have to deal with her. I do not like her when she is like this at all.