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Hi Thinker. I hope you get joint custody...THAT, I believe, is in the best interest of the kids. Chillin' with a brew and some tacos...sounds relaxing...even though you're working on the paperwork that you are.

OK, this sounds suspiciously like you are doing an internet based divorce. If this is in fact the case...STOP RIGHT NOW!

You will regret this years later when she goes for your retirement when you least expect it years down the line.

If you need details then ask but DO NOT do the cheap internet divorce thing! Big mistake.

Ask me why if you are not familiar with them. They are a joke.

Nope, no worries. The forms were information that was requested by the expensive pitt bull of a Lawyer to whom I have already paid a large retainer.

Has anyone seen a study or a good article on why full joint custody is good for the kids?

I am doing my homework and am looking for material to support my position that the kids need both of us on an equal basis.

http://www.deltabravo.net/custody/jointbenefits.php

There seem to be some references and links there...

That was an awesome link BobbiJo!

Also, I cant imagine how a single parent that has full custody has any "adult time" for themselves.

Thank you for the link.

No problem! That link itself connects to several on the importance of a father in kids' lives, which is always a good thing!

Thanks for the info.

Where I live, joint legal custody is almost a given. I am fighting for joint physical custody. The law here states that there is a "Parent of Primary Domicile" and a "Parent of Alternate Domicile". The assumption is that the children live with the PPD, the PPD does the general parenting, and the PAD has scheduled visitation days.

from my part...no way.

The alternative is to legally agree to 2 Parents of Primary Domicile. In other words, both parents are equal and the kids live alternately with both parents.

Unfortunately, since I worked to support the family, the presumption is that my W is the primary care giver and therefore would be the PPD - even though financial reality says that we will both have to be working full time after the d.

I have to fight (and win) in order to get equal time with the kids...(and I will)

I can handle it.

Thinker,Damn straight.Damn straight.
Lurking, pulling for ya and praying for ya!