ACJ, I am so happy for you my dear. You so deserve this. Your New Year is starting off so well. Congrats.....
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
Well I had my second date of the week last night. He was a really nice person but the poor fella looked a bit like shrek! It has snowed quite badly here (for England) and so I walked as we had arranged to meet at a local pub. He took the time to ensure I had got home safely and told me that he had enjoyed my company. He is the first person that I've met on the internet that has done that. Usually they disappear into the ether and i never hear from them again.
Mmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm.
Oh and I've just found out I only actually have to give 2 months notice.
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Me 43 XH 45 M 2.7.88 Divorce 7.10.09 Kids D20,S17 & D15
Thanks BND. I guess my time here is limited also but it needs to be a gradual withdrawal as it has played such a big supportive part in my life. I'm so glad that things continue to work for you and your H.
Me 43 XH 45 M 2.7.88 Divorce 7.10.09 Kids D20,S17 & D15
I'm fine Kat thank you. I've just been really busy this week. Also I'm trying to wean myself off this BB. It doesn't seem quite right coming her to a divorce site and then going onto a dating site
XH has suddenly started being nice and considerate to me. 3yrs too late. Oh well it ended how it ended
Me 43 XH 45 M 2.7.88 Divorce 7.10.09 Kids D20,S17 & D15
Hope you are surviving the weather there reasonably well. In what way is H being nice? Or, is he just not being mean? Kind of a contrast thing?
I am glad you've started dating and keeping it light and lots. Pointless jumping into a relationship too soon, 'eh?
Take care.
Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed. D35,S/D twins28,D22 EA4/04 End? Who knows? "Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim
All the snow has just about gone now as it has rained for the last couple of days.
H is being nice by way of actually seeming to be considerate. First he TMd me last week when S17 stayed to ask me to make sure he went to college (he had checked to ensure it wasn't closed due to snow) then this week he asked if it was alright for D14 to come home on Friday as his new in laws have come over to see the baby and D14 did not want to stay while they are there. In the past he either wouldn't have said anything or he would have just sent me message telling me what was happening. The last text he sent was hilarious because he had come to pick S17 up. He rang the doorbell and then legged it backto his car. He must have sent the TM from there b/c I got it literallyas he pulled away. Why he can't face speakingto me face to face I'll nver know.
Me 43 XH 45 M 2.7.88 Divorce 7.10.09 Kids D20,S17 & D15
He can't face you because he knows that he screwed up royally and is quite uncomfortable facing you. You have shown him just how strong and independent you are and how great you are as a parent....look what he has now....starting over w/a new family and a baby that will keep him up all hours of the night (at his age, no less). He will never admit it, but he knows that he screwed up and yes, guilt for the way he has treated you since he flew the coop doesn't help him either.
I'm very pleased to see that he is acting like a civil human being for now. Let's hope it's a permanent condition and not one just for the short duration.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
