What if he's a WAH and the MLC thing is part of my imagination? What if those 'symptoms' are just part of what he's feeling as his justification walking away?
What if Ducks could fly upside down and crap out silver lined eggs at the same time?
Would you stand outside with a bucket ?
Stop worrying over every little thing that you have absolutely NO control over....
No matter the reason he walked.....you probably have less to do with it than you think.
Doesn't make you perfect...just human...
YOU.....have your own list of "what if's" to work on. Don't pile on his too.
No matter the reason he walked.....you probably have less to do with it than you think.
You know ... I lost sight of this. This is HIS issue. He manifested it in us because it's easier than dealing with himself. I need to get the F out of his way and let him deal. I need to reread Laura Munson's article...
Originally Posted By: Mach1
I replied to you on ST's thread.....
Thanks ... I'll check it out ...
PEI
Holding onto anger to punish someone else, is like lighting yourself on fire to get smoke in their eyes ~ 25yearsmlc
I am reading, and reading and rereading. I guess the setbacks are normal and part of the journey towards detachment - and the fewer I have the faster I move towards detachment maybe. I am trying to understand the MLC and I guess that's why I asked the question "is this an MLC, what if it's not and he's a WAH?" I wanna make sure I'm studying the right monster.
In a nutshell ... what's your sitch? Did you cycle in and out on your way to detachment?
Holding onto anger to punish someone else, is like lighting yourself on fire to get smoke in their eyes ~ 25yearsmlc
What if Ducks could fly upside down and crap out silver lined eggs at the same time? Would you stand outside with a bucket ?
dude, I would...could be a real gold mine!
PEI, sorry to hear about your backslide. i know it's hard but 1 - it's good you saw lessons learned 2 - you do have to give yourself some compassion. your sitch is tough and everyone's advice to take care of yourself is so crucial.
and i know i sound like a broken record but really consider talking to a db coach again (i know you said you were saving up for another session). i went through a similar sitch last week re "OW" and coach told me that my prying and getting caught up in it is a way of being controlling. did someone say control?? man, it rears its ugly head in so many diff't ways.
What if Ducks could fly upside down and crap out silver lined eggs at the same time? Would you stand outside with a bucket ?
dude, I would...could be a real gold mine!
PEI, sorry to hear about your backslide. i know it's hard but 1 - it's good you saw lessons learned 2 - you do have to give yourself some compassion. your sitch is tough and everyone's advice to take care of yourself is so crucial.
and i know i sound like a broken record but really consider talking to a db coach again (i know you said you were saving up for another session). i went through a similar sitch last week re "OW" and coach told me that my prying and getting caught up in it is a way of being controlling. did someone say control?? man, it rears its ugly head in so many diff't ways.
sending you some virtual love ((PEI))
Yep. Ouch. Hmmmmm. Need to put some thought into this. Didn't really see it that way.
I am hoping to have a session with Cheryl very soon ... $ is tight though so it's gonna take me some time to save. I could really use it though so I'm making it a priority.
Thanks ... (((hugs))) back at cha!
Holding onto anger to punish someone else, is like lighting yourself on fire to get smoke in their eyes ~ 25yearsmlc
