The OM was watching my kids while waiting out front for my W I guess. It is kind of creepy. They were laughing and staring at them. The left when daughter looking their way.
I have thought about bringing it up to my W. What should I do, or should I try to take some photos if it happens again. Daughter said he was in the store where we were shopping to because she seen him in the car, and then he just disappeared. I feel that I should do something about this. I may get a restraining order if possible. Any thoughts!
I don't trust the guy after his history with his youngest son. The OM will not even talk to his own son. Maybe it is not even his son, I don't know. But he is bad news I feel it.
I will have to protect the kids somehow. His W seems scared of him too.
I just don't trust him.
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I guess I am finding that the ups and downs with me are because I never liked to hurt someones feelings even when someone has been bad to me. I just don't like to be an a$$hole. It is not in me even though I have had to be in this whole process. It is my kids that keep me from just giving up all together. I know I have to do what is best for them, but this is their mother and the W I once loved so much. How do I just turn off my emotions. I do not like what I am doing. It just seems so wrong and strange to have to do the things I am.
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I finished the forms today that the attorney wanted me to do when we meet. I am so glad to have those done. I have finished more than I thought. I guess I could do more than I thought. I am so glad to have some confidence about this divorce even though it is the last thing that I want to have happen. I guess it is the best for me. I am so up and down about it. I am so disappointed that she left no money in the account. Actually I am very angry. At least she paid the rent. I guess she will not be happy with the motions I will file.
I do not like this at all the way she is treating me. It is so crappy.
I hope to hear back on rescheduling the job interview. I hope I get it. I so much want this job now.
Is it hopeless for me? Is there no more that I can do with the Big D already filed? I feel hopeless about the M and possibly what will happen with the kids. I have tried for so long to have it not end. It does not seem right. I have been such a fool for so long to think I could make it work.
I am truly the biggest fool on this forum.
I see the strength of everyone here. I see the way that other sitches even in the worst case scenarios that seem to deal with issues much better than me.
I see success even in the failures here. People finding themselves while I feel eternally lost with little movement forward. It just sucks to be me.
I have to be more than me right now with the constant stunts she pulls. I just don't get it, and I guess I never will. It is just so wrong!!!
Find someone else dude. I think then you will get it.
I think once the divorce is final I just want to be myself and spend time with my kids. I know it probably will take more time to get it, but I don't think I will be ready for another R for awhile.
I don't want to complicate my life for awhile with someone else when I need to work on myself and become a better person for me.
Thanks for the advice.
I hope I do get it someday soon.
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I think you are already better. Have fun, obviously worrying about the past situation is pointless today.
Having the company of females who are interested in you is not complicating your life. However I did have a theory for people in our boat that it probably makes more sense to get your $hit together before getting out there.
I do need to get my life moving forward and together. I will be more happy that way.
I guess I will move forward someday.
Start today. Where do you want to be in a year?
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
I do wish that there was someway I could back and change how I reacted to my sitch initially. I believe I would have a chance now.
Man, don't I know it! Most of us feel that way. The most important thing is trusting all that you have learned and putting it into action.
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I do need to get my life moving forward and together. I will be more happy that way.
I guess I will move forward someday.
Yes and yes.
You will have ups and downs, as you know. Don't allow yourself to wallow in the down times. I still have really down times, but they don't last nearly as long as they used to. Learn to recognize them and then act to overcome them. Do anything to take your mind off of things. I know, easier said than done, but you can learn how and you must learn how; for your own well being.
You are doing better, make no mistake. Taking action and fighting for what is right is a great thing. Great for you and your kids. Keep it up and hang in there.
