Yeah, I know I will prob get 2 x 4s for even letting my mind go there... but I need to be honest with myself. I still love him even though he does not deserve it. And I am not ready to date even though I totally thought I was. So I will just hang with my kids and my girl friends and enjoy the summer. If someone/something pops up and gets my attention, so be it. But I have enough work cut out for me getting myself in order!
Yeah, I know I will prob get 2 x 4s for even letting my mind go there... but I need to be honest with myself. I still love him even though he does not deserve it.
I think you can love somebody without the attachment being there anymore and even let go and move on with your life. There's nothing wrong with that so long as you are living your own life and not putting it on hold to "keep a candle burning" for somebody who doesn't respect you.
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Yeah, I know I will prob get 2 x 4s for even letting my mind go there... but I need to be honest with myself. I still love him even though he does not deserve it. And I am not ready to date even though I totally thought I was. So I will just hang with my kids and my girl friends and enjoy the summer. If someone/something pops up and gets my attention, so be it. But I have enough work cut out for me getting myself in order!
Oh and 3 more days of school!!!!
No 2 X 4's from me. You don't bury feelings and dreams you had with someone you've been married to for that many years, no matter what they've done to you. It will take time and I think you are smart for not jumping into the dating scene. I've made the same decision after dipping my toe in the water. It just didn't feel right. At some point I'll wade back in but like you, I've got enough other things to keep me busy right now.
Yeah, I know I will prob get 2 x 4s for even letting my mind go there... but I need to be honest with myself. I still love him even though he does not deserve it. And I am not ready to date even though I totally thought I was. So I will just hang with my kids and my girl friends and enjoy the summer. If someone/something pops up and gets my attention, so be it. But I have enough work cut out for me getting myself in order!
