Thanks for the comments, We started marriage fitness last night and it seems like that will be a fun program to work with. We have a fun trip planned with the kids for the long weekend. Apparently they have a "day camp daycare at the resort, so we are excited put the kids up for a while and get some much needed alone time together.
update... Spent a great weekend with W and 2 oldest kids at a hotel. We enjoyed doing many different activities and had a great time just being together. I find myself pushing her away almost daily. I told her that no matter what I say, I do want to be with her and make this work and she is the same way. I think that I still have issues that I should discuss with IC regarding OM and that I feel "compared" in our relationship. However, I definately feel better every day and the "jealousy" and "anger" are going away as I learn the truth. Anyways, Marriage fitness is going well, we have found some new hobbies we like to do together and we are making it a point to drop the kids off with family and share some quality alone time together.
OM is similar to me in many ways she says, big talker and not physically attractive are the big differences that I see. Yeah, she chose me at my worst (our relationship anyways) over him (and their relationship)at its best, so I just have to remember that when I get upset.
Took W away for her birthday on friday. Had a great night and really had fun just being alone. I surprised her. I picked her up gave her a rose that had a note that said " I HOPE" on it. I told her " hope" should be our new slogan because it refers to a lot of different things that I feel for her and for our relationship. I took her out to red lobster for her birthday and when we went back to the car to head to the hotel, I gave her a second rose that had a note that said "You always know". I told her I just want her to always know that I am the one and that we were meant to be together. So we zipped over to the hotel, where I had checked in earlier in the day. I opened up the door and she walked into the room where I had arranged 8 dozen roses into a heart on the bed and wrote in a big note "How much I Love you". She was really taken back and was speechless. I guess my "romantic" side is totally coming back to me and idea's just pop into my head on how I can make her feel special. anyways, life is very good.
Nice job. I did sort of the same on New Years which carried some sentimental reason as last year's New Years was when (x)W started to really get the itch to "fix" things with us but waffled. So this year, we are together, went to our favorotie bands show and went to the hotel right next door where I had checked in earlier and covered the bed with rose petals. She was breathless.
Me 35/XW 33 S13 & S12 M: 10/17/98 OM & S: 07/08 D final 06/09/09 12/03/09 - 06/13/10 "Piercing" 06/13/10: Engaged to Re-marry 10/17/10 06/25/10: Expecting baby #3 2/14/11
Things still going really well at home, Date night has become a great night. Having love, not just saying it makes a huge difference in the relationship. Everything in our lives like giving kids a bath, doing the laundry, or even setting the table used to be such a chore... Now we just understand each other, we work so well as a team, we have more energy and we just make it work every day. We save energy for each other and it completely transformed the way everything else goes in our life. I feel so lucky to have gotten another chance to make it right.
#9 anniversary tomorrow! I have some idea's in mind and some making up to do for past year's letdowns!! (i completely forgot last year, yeah I was emotionally divorced then.)
Well 9 yr anniversary went great yesterday. I went over the top with some things and had her speachless for the 2nd time in a month. Funny how romantic things just come to your heart when you are in love.
