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Thank you Jack - I know that I have to find the right balance for my "darkness". I feel that I may still come across as angry to him....have to be more "neutral"...will work on that

"dad is currently a fcktard" - Jack...got a chuckle out of that...but seriously, I'm watching what's up, because she only started this "don't have time for you dad" after the weekend (the weekend that she observed OW in the car with her daddy). Still not sure that this is why she doesn't want to spend time with him, could be just normal teenage selfishness and preoccupation with herself...very much what her 54-year-old daddy is going through.

If I see that this continues next week, I'll gently talk to her. Not to tell her what to do, but to guide her in other ways.

Mila...think you did well today! Had to have been tough but well handled!

Love it!

Mila you're doing great!

Have to vent my friends....my day just took a nose dive. As I mentined earlier H gave me his expenses, business and personal.

I know that on the weekend WH & OW bought snow crab legs, prawns, smoked salmon, French Camembert cheese, raspberries, blackberries, Russian vodka, french wine, Czech beer, went to a movie and bought the video "Notting Hill"...should I go on?

How dare he give me these receipts, doesn't he have any respect for me and the decency to take out cash and not use debit so I don't see it? This is just beyond belief. How could he do this to me? What's wrong with this man. This is beyond MLC. He was a decent caring, sensitive man...there is something seriously wrong with him to be able to treat me like this. In moments like this I'm just thinking that I'm done, why would I want someone like that back. fcktard......b-turd.....Grrrrr

Say something. Don't just take it.

I saw a T-shirt ad today that said Fck you, you fcking fck. Mila maybe you could use that when you give your h back the reciepts. Ha Ha!

Oh my gosh they really do get so far out there when they are in MLC. Is he that clueless?

Mila, First and foremost, thank you my friend, for being there....and sharing your strength.

Second, the insensitivity of the MLCer strikes again. I bet if you bring those receipts up to your H he would have no idea why you are upset. They are so wrapped up in themselves and their own little world that it wouldn't even occur to them. It is the epitome of selfishness and entitlement. This is where your detaching skills come in.

Have you decided whether to say anything to him about it? Would there be any way to enforce a boundary with this if you chose to make one?

We have been given the gift of another day and the choice is ours as to what we make of it.

(((Hugs)))

(((MILA)))He is being a b-turd and now we have a new term "fktard"...thankyou! Is he testing you? (re drive by with ow) Do they do that?

Those cannot possible be business expenses can they? I'd say it is time to let him do his own personal expenses...mind you, I am not a business person so if I am off base here ignore!

I guess if this is not affecting you financially, then it is up to you to decide how much you can take, but if it is financially affecting you, then you need to take steps to protect yourself/business.

You don't.

IF you decide to put a new M together, fcktard won't be in the room will he?

You know this drill my dear. Think about it?

He has been trying to get at you ANY way he can.

Did this work?

Only if YOU let it.

These are not business expenses so you just give a business answer.

Calm. Cool. And with not a whiff of anger.

He knew EXACTLY what he was doing.

He was trying to be all the fcktard he could be.

You know what to do here.

You got mad skills! Confuse him with your tactics!

You are in the eye of the storm (nod Mach) let it go on around you.

That is the safest place to be.

CW, Need to set the record straight. The term "fktard" was a contribution from J3B when posting to Mila about her H's current antics.

It fits and I'm LMAO, hysterically. I find it even funnier when Mila uses it to describe her H. Then Grit used the term in his post and I'm ROTFLMAO. I guess I just need to be committed.

Believe me, I'm not laughing at the sitch, just how well the name fits.