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Apparently the only reason he acted insane was because he had to leave his kids. He said if he were to do it again he would take them with him as I was the worst wife and mother on the face of the earth. If I dropped dead tomorrow it wouldn't bother him at all. Just save him from having to divorce my useless, horrible excuse for a woman. Said he wouldn't marry me again if I was the last person on earth.

Said I was a functional mother who couldn't even get her kids to breastfeed. And that they don't want to come home to me.


Sounded perfectly sane and calm when he said it.

DG -I'm here too. Please call the Crisis line, he is not worth it, don't sell yourself short. I only know you from "cyber space" but I can tell that you are a beautiful person, with a good heart that has plenty of love to give to the right person. We all made mistakes in our marriages, but we have learned from them...right? So we won't make them again be it with our WH or with someone else.

Your children need you, If you don't care about you right now, think of them and their life and what would it do to them if you were gone. You have to keep on fighting...this feeling is only temporary, part of that rollercoaster...you should know by now. Please DG call someone....please

DG, Your H took a page right out of MLC script. Don't you see that he's spewing and blaming you for everything? He's the one who is broken and projecting it all on you.

What brought on this tirade of his?

He said how happy the kids were around OW.
That my ignoring him pushed him to fall in love with another woman who knew how to love him.

I can't watch as she takes over my kids. I can't watch him be as happy with her as we were on our wedding day. I can't do it.

You H is a cruel b-tard. Don't you believe anything he said, your children love you and you know that and there are plenty of other people that love you also. You H is a miserable excuse for a human being right now, how dare he.

I haven't learned fast enough.

The one person who always stood by me turned to another because I couldn't fix what had been done to me. The only one I'd want to call hates my guts.

I don't want another H. I wasn't going to marry at all until I met H.

I can't relate to people. It's hard for me to even be social. I've got so many hangups, I'm too much work.

I don't want my kids to be like me. Awkward. Socially inept. Clueless about feelings and relationships. Unable to get close to people.

I'm not a role model for anyone. there are better ones out there. H found one.

DG, It's his pain, guilt and shame talking. No one can take your place with your children. You carried them under your heart for 9 months and brought them into this world. There is no one that could ever have the bond that you do with them and it would devastate them if you weren't here.

He said there are pics on FB with my kids and OW all happy family. Told me to go see for myself how they love her. I didn't. I can't.

I'm replaceable with a better mom.

DG - ((((hugs))))


well you are doing pretty darn good job relating to people here
and everyone has hangups. The main thing is that you recognize what you need to work on...

You know what you need to fix...the knowing is job half done, we are all works in progress...

DG that is totally MLC script. I wouldn't engage in any convos with him. We all know we say things we don't mean when emotions are high.

Right now you can't even begin to think about your future. Focus on you. You have no idea how this is going to turn out in the end.

We have all had those thoughts of giving up, but don't allow your h's projected thoughts get into your head. Don't allow that to happen.

Hugs!