He showed up at practice after saying that he wasn't. He mentioned that we neeed to sit down tomorrow night and discuss bills. Then he again started to tell me that he was calling someone to list our house and tried to tell me that it's best for the kids if everything goes ahead and happens. I told him that I wasn't discussing it right then and somehow that turned into him telling me that I've gotten what I wanted--a chance for me to find someone else and that I've never wanted him even before we started dating 17 years ago. I told him that he was wrong and that that was not true. He argued his case and before I could respond, our son walked up.
I want to call him so bad and tell him my arguement.
I would say don't call him. go Dark(its hard, very hard) Lotus is right. Would you compliment a friend that was acting like a dick head to you? I don't think you would.
I like all this empty space because i can now type out things that are important.
Like: D7 S2 starting swimming lessons on 3/30
"Readily will I display the intestinal fortidue required to fight on..."
I did not call him. He did ask that I call our storage unit and ask when it was paid through so that he could get his utility trailer before the paid through date and delete that monthly bill. Rather than call, I texted saying that it was paid through the 22nd and that I had the receipt to give him for renewing his vehicle tags.
In response, he called and asked that I bring the receipt to practice tonight as well as a list of all of our bills, dates due, and amounts so that he could go back to the motor home afterwards and figure out what to do with bills and money himself. I told him ok and we hung up.
I know that I have to go dark and do the LRT technique but I'm scared that he'll never figure out that I do want him and quit thinking like he is about me and other men. Will he?
Your husband is blatantly emotionally abusive and seems to get pleasure from being intentionally cruel to you (rolling eyes, sitting far away from you, telling he doesn't want you) and he's not even discreet about it in front of your children.
GO DARK.
VERY dark.
Do not call him or anything.
As for the OW, I suspect something is going on there. If she wanted him to try on his M so hard, she wouldn't let him sleep over.
I know if I had an old friend who was going through M problems and they asked to stay over I would tell them flat-out, I care about yo uand am sorry but am not getting involved. Go home to your wife.
But that's neither here nor there.
GO DARK. DO NOT initiate contact unless it's about your children.
I want to give you a huge hug after reading that. It must be so hard to keep a straight face when he's talking to you but please try. Do not beg him for anything.
Sorry that the original post was so long, y'all. I did email them and ask that they delete it so that people would see the revised version and hopefully respond. Thx so much for reading and responding. I'm sure all of you know how much it helps to have people to lean on that have been through this and still understand wanting to save a marriage no matter how hard.
Going finish balancing the three checking accounts so that he knows the money available while trying to figure out bill payments, budgets, and I guess what amount of money he wants to give me. He's gonna be pissed when I hand it to him with no emotion. He's NEVER handled the finances at all. He's gonna freak, get pissed, insist on selling the house, etc,
