Just spitballin the novel legal theory stuff here. But DNA testing would clearly eastablish paternity. I would love to find out whatever states have laws like what your talking about sandi, it just seems like such a bizarre thing.
Thats the thing, I SERIOUSLY doubt she will voluntarily give up custody the second time around. The first time had more to do with the abusive realtionship tha developed with her MIL. Her MIL is a real piece of work, used the twins as weapons for YEARS in an effort to coerce her into giving into her demands. She still got to see them regularly , but signing over custody was the only clear way to end the mental torment of having visitation with held on a whim or dangled as an incentive do to her MIL's bidding.
She see's our kids as a "second chance " of sorts, of this I am CERTAIN , from both words and behavior. The irony of course being she's created the conditions with her recent choices to go through the whole thing all over again.
You are not LISTENING to what I'm saying!!! I never said that the court would doubt who the natural father was. I am saying that when a man and a woman is legally......I said LEGALLY married, the children born during the time they are legally M are legally that H's responsibility. Haven't you ever heard of a woman sleeping around while M and her legal H believing the child was his? And....LEGALLY, it is. At least that is the way the law used to be, but as I said...with your name on the BC, IDK. Just please stop misunderstanding what I am saying.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
WAW gets pregnant at 16 by boyfriend. Family offers ultimatum which results in shotgun wedding with a justice of the peace. Boyfriend, now husband is verbally and physically abusive to WAW. She leaves and moves back home. As a result of all the tension , she has the kids VERY premature, with numerous medical issues as a result. HIS Mother gets bent out of shape one day when she is denied a visit because WAW wants to sleep after being up all night with two preemies.
MIL calls an old school friend who is a DYFS case worker and reports WAW for "improper parenting" case worker arrives, states one child is being removed, WAW freaks ( she was only 16 years old after all ) and bolts out the door with other twin, only making things worse. This of course results in second child being taken away and temp custody being awarded to the MIL. MIL then proceeds to use children as a psychological weapon against WAW.
We meet by chance the same year, but nothing really comes of it for another year for a variety of reasons. We finally reconnect in late Summer 96 and eventually move in together that winter. Abusive Husband bounces around between pursuit of her and fliting all over the place, basically an absentee Dad from the twins lives for the bulk of the time. Fast forward almost 14 years later and......................
Suddenly in the last couple months, he's started re inserting himself into the twins lives ( now 15 ) and Im guessing now she's been talking to him or he sniffed out her vulnerable state or ?????? Who the hell knows. NO ONE will believe or understand her motives for running back to this guy after their history and so much time. Heck he was just arrested about a year ago for domestic violence in a fight with his sister in front of the twins ! One of them called ME crying about it! So HE was physically and verbally abusive to MY WAW when they were together, HIS Mother was mentally abusive to my WAW and apparently he stll has an anger managment problem
Legally and technically nothing. She was still M. Out of curiosity, I understand you were waiting for her to finish the D, but don't you think 14 years was a bit long. Did you ever think that maybe she would go back to her H?
Yes you say he was abusive, etc. But wouldn't she have ended it sooner if it was? Personally, I don't think she dealt with all her issues from her past R, went out with you in her state of confusion, things got comfortable and she just got lazy.
Because they are still legally married, there are alot of obligations that they are still responsible for between the two of them.
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