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Saffie - figured out the surname bit but there are several to choose from. I bet you can tell I'm rubbish at cryptic crosswords!

Hi Aver - no kilted studs as I've not been over the border yet. Patience my friend. I will see what I can find for you next week

I think it's the scaryness of my job that I love. Always been the adrenaline junkie. Although the EMS side is worse - at least I have loads of kit and loads of people and good lighting etc etc etc. I've done a bit of pre-hospital stuff, and it's great fun, but definitely scarier than being in a fully equipped resus.

You're right about the up and down. At least it's more day by day now rather than by the second! I'm up unless I either hear about or from the WAW. That seems to send me crashing down, but recvoery is getting shorter and shorter. Still just best avoided as much as possible I reckon. And brachial is probably the best bet The psych looked scared when I told him that and exactly why it was.........

Next week will be exciting. Am travelling up with one new friend (previous date, boundaries clearly laid), meeting another up there on Wednesday and then one of my best mates from work is coming to stay the final weekend. And hopefully hooking up wtih JacT at some point too. Intersperse all that with lying in the hammock in the garden, beach, kiting, sea and forest, and I'm in heaven.

Happy sunny days to everyone!

Have sent an email

You will feel like this for a long time.I spoke to my neighbour today who had bomb drop just over two weeks ago.I could feel that pain aura all around her.She has her seperation agreement signed already.God I am struggling with it 10months down the line.I think it must be hard to start living again but she will get her day.
My counsellor was telling me today that her dad had a secret life with an OW for years and he had 2 kids with her. She was devestated when she found out and angry at her mum for not telling her.She tried to tell him how it was all wrong but he wouldnt listen.
Anyway he takes really unwell as all the pressure builds up and the illness causes deafness...She is convinced it was Gods way of punishing him for not listening.
I am sure Lees there is a medical reason but god works in mysterious ways and your W and the Ow will reap what they sow.
Have you seen the new forum on midlife crisis marriage advocate.com?
Rollercoaster rider has started it and all the vets are there already.

Yes, and we on the ambulance crew have it so much easier than the first responders! Those poor guys just arrive with their own personal emergency stuff do what they can, and hope we get our butts there soon.

Good observations on the roller-coaster. It will eventually go from seconds to minutes to hours to days. And I guess eventually stop.

Keep talking care of yourself. It sounds like you have some great activities planned!

Ugh I feel sick. The OW is now calling the father in law "Dad" and is arranging private medical care for his heart condition. Wish they still didn't cause emotional reaction in me.

I think, sad though it is, that will have to be it in terms of contact with the FIL & BIL. That saddens me. But she's obviously ingratiated herself completely into their lives now, and life is now all about preservation of me.

Ugh. General craziness all around for BIL and FIL to accept OW SOOO quickly.

And yes: life IS all about preservation of YOU now. You, you, you. Do what you need to do to keep your own bad self going.

Focus on taking care of you.

did I say that enough times?

I'm not sure how far to run with this.

I don't know how much of any of what OW says is true. But I have a copy of a referral letter which she has written about him, attached to an email calling him Dad. Funny that she's a) not a cardiologist but feels able to refer him to a private practitioner, and b) there was nothing wrong with his treatment in the first place. Smacks of more manipulation. The letter reads like she actually saw and examined him.

That is crossing a boundary. Not supposed to treat own family. Not supposed to send medical information to unsecured email accounts.

Do I send a tip off?

This is an interesting one.Can you tip off without compromising you?How did you get the email.Shes not worth compromising yours you, your job or your career.She would be quite happy to see you fail.
Remember they are manipulative, evil people, they play with their victims head thats is already in turmoil.Stay cool Lees and see what the vets say.I probably wouldnt do anything unless you can full protect you...

Well I'm really beyond caring what the WAW thinks or feels about me. This would be partly out of genuine concern for FIL/BIL etc being manipulated, partly out of professional concern for the sending of patient data through unsecured channels and breaking written and unwritten rules of practice, and partly out of seeking revenge.

I'm going to sit on it for a few days.

We'll see if any vets chip in.

What would you do if you discovered this had happened with a patient you had no attachment to by another Dr you only had a professional R with?