and robx....you are correct.....i guess I shouldn'e worry about it unless it happens
M: 39 W: 39 Kids (3): S10; S8; D4 Married 14 years Togethor: 18 years Wife's Weird Behavior Started: 2nd Half of 2009 Bomb Dropped (about being "so done"): 2/17/10 Current Status: In counseling
Seriously, though...Robx is right. It's not time to worry about that yet. And yes, I know plenty of happily remarried Catholics who receive communion. God is good. You are good. That's a contract that matters.
No worries! Greek
Me45 H46 T25 M22 S21 & 19 D13 Separated and filed 8/08 Moved home 11/08
The bible says to give your wife the D if she asks for it. It also says not to remarry.....
DO NOT TRY AND CONTROL YOUR WIFE. Let her leave. Draw her back over time with the changes you make to your beliefs, thoughts, words and actions.....
that's interesting, I've heard someone mention that before, are you able to show me a direct quote from within the bible saying that?
“It was also said, ‘Whoever divorces his wife, let him give her a certificate of divorce.’ But I say to you that everyone who divorces his wife, except on the ground of sexual immorality, makes her commit adultery, and whoever marries a divorced woman commits adultery. —Matthew 5:31-32 http://www.scripturemenu.com/BibleVerseList.html?topicid=43
Anyway, Each of us have our own beliefs. If our partner has different beliefs, justifies there actions or whatever, they will divorce us. We do not have a say in this. The best we can do is make positive improvements to ourselves, and if the opportunity arises in the future to reconcile, we see it and make a decision then....
"What is best for my kids is best for me" Amor Fati Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712
My marriage is not over yet and I am doing everything I can to salvage it. That said, I am a devoted Catholic and am very worried what happens if my wife divorces me and leaves. I mean, I know what the church's official position is, but what if any feedback has anyone received who has actually gone through a divorce????
I watched my Ex-Wife "justify" her decision and take the churches "penalty" by not eating the cracker or drinking the wine for a period of time. She is back doing her outward rituals. Hypocrisy at its best.
"What is best for my kids is best for me" Amor Fati Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712
Anyway, Each of us have our own beliefs. If our partner has different beliefs, justifies there actions or whatever, they will divorce us. We do not have a say in this. The best we can do is make positive improvements to ourselves, and if the opportunity arises in the future to reconcile, we see it and make a decision then....
M: 39 W: 39 Kids (3): S10; S8; D4 Married 14 years Togethor: 18 years Wife's Weird Behavior Started: 2nd Half of 2009 Bomb Dropped (about being "so done"): 2/17/10 Current Status: In counseling
and robx....you are correct.....i guess I shouldn'e worry about it unless it happens
Don't get me wrong, I felt like you did in the beginning, I think we all go through that, that is fear of loss, that is crisis, "what if...", it's ok to feel what you're feeling - heck those feelings are your's, you own them, but you need to realize why you feel this way. You're afraid of something that hasn't happened yet, in essense, you're afraid of what tomorrow may bring and my advice would be to turn that into your 180, look forward to what tomorrow may bring, you may be surprised at the good things that may come your way still.
Every day is a chance to do better than the previous, even if it's only in a small way, over time, even the tiniest of changes add up to something significant in size.
It's a friday, my favorite day of the week and it signals the weekend is here and where I live, it's the much anticipated "May Long Weekend!!!" (monday off, something to do with Queen Victoria - thanks again lady!), you focus on having a great day today and an awesome weekend!
