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Just feeling really sad about the whole situation

Well....we went on vacation this weekend with a bunch of other couples and all the kids. Thw wife is still cordial but cold and her feelings have not changed. There has been no physical contact at all for the last month or so(I have not attempted any). It's been almost 4 months now and she is absolutely the same.

I am not sure how long to wait???? My folks have always been close to us and are now wanting to get involved. Dad wants me to kick her a$$ out of the house (exact words)and mom wants to write her a long letter. They know all of the details regarding our situation (especially my fault in this), but I told them to stay out of it.

Should I tell her it might be best to move out for awhile????

Thoughts????

Bark,
I read back through your sitch. Unless I missed it, did you ever check - really look into whether there is an EA or PA?
Greek

not really......none of our mutual friends believe so either

So you didn't check her phone records or email?
Greek

no

I'm asking b/c it seems to me that you are DBing - hanging in there, making the changes, doing the work - but she's not budging. Makes me wonder what (who) is standing in the way.
Greek

Trust me on this.....if her close friends knew....I would know

It is truly frustrating. She is going to visit her sister in Tampa in a week (for a week). If nothing has changed by the time she gets back, I think I will initiate a seperation discussion

Really?!

I just have to say - Bark - new bra size, text messages, out with BFFs til all hours and now...a trip to visit family? Plus no progress on the R? Are you sure you don't want to look into this more carefully?

If you tell me she's purchased new undies for this trip, too, I'm going to have to come over there and put you in a headlock!

I smell a rat.
Greek