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Hmmm, let's see, some points pretty well hit already, mainly the fear of loss.

Mine, went the full monty. D, done. But all the while, never gave the I love you but I'm not in love with you speech.

That even though I amy not have been the perfect H, I was far from flawed, and she always came first.

That I clawed, tooth and nail for everything we had, made sacrafices for her, our children and family in general. Who was going to do that now?

Then, there was the children. The looks on their faces, and blank stares and distain for her for what she had done. To them, their father and thier family structure.

Her friends and family who finally saw through her lies, re-written history, and all the like to validate her and her A.

The loss of access to the kids on certain holidays (rotated).

Then finally, the knowing I had grown strong again, better than before, and was moving on with my life.

So in a case where there is no fear of loss, that leaves only the positive side: wanting to return to something better. Is that correct?