So I finally got a decent bike ride in after a couple weeks of crappy weather and a busy schedule. I freakin LOVE cycling. I was slow as molasses and couldn't chase a young guy in front of me, but that is to be expected after a long layoff.
Our band that our first parade of the parade season yesterday. We had a couple new pipers I've been training since last year. They were quite shaky, but I think it will inspire them to practice harder and improve quicker. When we got to the end of the parade I looked over and there on the corner was MINDFULL, smiling from the curb. That was a pleasant sight.
She got to meet the boys and hang in the bars, where we did some barnstorming. She was a big hit. I can't wait to see what the fellas have to say about her. I'm sure it will good.
I'm meeting with the stbxW after work to start to hammer out some D plans. We have been trading emails with some financial numbers and property division thoughts, but last night I also made the recommendation to file jointly.
She didn't really address it in the email back, but was more stuck on my desire re-home our cats. I've felt fairly put upon with dealing with everything I did when she was here (cats, bills, house, cars, chores, etc.), but now with GAL'ing and working on me, it is too much.
She wanted me to keep the house, the cats, and just walk away. I told her "Wife. uh uh." Time to help with the remnants of (whatever) our life was together. No more running away.
.... I've felt fairly put upon with dealing with everything I did when she was here (cats, bills, house, cars, chores, etc.), but now with GAL'ing and working on me, it is too much.
She wanted me to keep the house, the cats, and just walk away. I told her "Wife. uh uh." Time to help with the remnants of (whatever) our life was together. No more running away.
So we will see what happens.
I'm glad you're not settling just for what she offers, if you want something, make it known, no one is a mind reader and I really like seeing that you're voicing your opinion and telling her what she needs to do.
It's important.
So what things specifically do you want her to help with? Do you have a list set up? Do you have plans in place if she refuses to help with the things you're asking help with?
Rob.. Her favorite new quote is "I was planning to offer..." after I make a decision or call her on something. "Really W? That's great! It would be nice to be proactive and follow through with your plan."
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So what things specifically do you want her to help with?
Yesterday I made up my mind to sell the house. Today I received some good consul to think it over and check my finances more closely, and see what kind of situation I might find myself in. It would be better financially to keep it a couple years and sell, than to sell now.
If I do commit to selling, the W will be forced to help out with that, whatever that means (get it show ready, help with showings, help deal with a realtor).
Also, she has agreed to take two of the cats in August. I have her committed to helping re-home the others.
I also have financial arrangements I want to lay down and pet sitting.
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Do you have a list set up?
I have a financial list in order. I don't think I forgot anything. I have a lawyer on hold. I'll find out how cooperative she really is today and if I need to retain him for myself or some type of mediation will work.
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Do you have plans in place if she refuses to help with the things you're asking help with?
Not really. But I can handle adversity pretty well.. Improvise, adapt, overcome.
-Fergie /I'm going to be late. ///Got to get going.
