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I second that one, too!

ack...ack...

what are you trying to do...kill me with kindness here?

Noooo, we would miss you to much

No, just letting you know how much we appreciate your contribution to the board.

Jack

Hopefully this will really make you puke ...I second what Mila and SA have said...your a heck of a guy (now don't take this wrong way :))

Mila / SA - thank you. I really appreciate it.

God Bless,
Eric

Watch out you Jack might get a swelled head. Oh Jack I think I missed your birthday this year. I beleive it is March 22!!!

All

Just a quick update - W continues to be very nice and social. FTR, I take it for what it is..another human being just showing some decency.

I have some very interesting things to decide over the next few days. W's L has agreed to a sit down with me and my L in order to see what type of agreement we can reach. I remain adamant on a 50/50 split with the kids - everything else is open to discussion in my mind.

I'm concerned about my ability to take care of myself but I will just need to figure it out. I still have "feelings" for W and I know this is normal. I just wonder when will the time come when I can look at her and just see another human being and not the women that I love. The anger is gone - finally. What is left is me...a new person...

In some weird way I thank her for having the courage to move forward with the D. I thank her because quite honestly I would not have looked at myself had she not made the decsion that she did.

I look forward now...forward to what/who I am. I will look back from time to time only to remind myself of the errs. of my old ways.

I have decided to remain in the house until April of next year (assuming I can negotiate this). The reason for this is two fold..1) My kids need this stability (I am for the most part Mr. Mom and way) and 2) for financial reasons. I know that this may hold her back from progress and some would say may hold me back from growth. The realty of our sitch is that we barely see each other so I believe that this could work. I have no expecations. NONE. I will be respectful as I hope she will.

I wonder if it might work out easier if you both go to a neutral mediator in which both L's could still be there as advisors.

Your last paragraph could work out (co-habitation) as long as the D process is peaceful. There also exists the possibility during that time that reconcilliation could occur.

Kerry

I disucssed the mediator with her and it did not go anywhere. The approach we are trying to take is a collaberative approach. That is where her, I and the two L's agree to come up with an agreement without going to court. We would both sign documents to that effect.

I suspect that the D process will be peaceful (at least on my end). In terms of reconciliation I do not have any expectations for this. I am very focused on me right now but ya never know.

Thanks for the comments.

God Bless,
Eric

Eric

Thanks for all your posts. I know you know exactly where i am and helps me tremendously.

STFU and do it! is my new motto.