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doe she have access to your home still?

you need to protect yourself from her reaction.. be careful

Allen mentioned it and stressed it, but it needs to be restated again-

watch your behavior- A's will trigger all sorts of things w/in you. It's her shirt not yours- remember that. It says nothing of the type of person you are, just that WAW was unable to address things in a healthy manner.

You will be gaslighted and there will be many, many lies...and disrespect.

Always come off being the mature one-

I had a huge problem w/ this due to situations and my own poor impulse control.

It will be paramount for you to be the one whom is beyond reproach

Home secured the moment I suspected. Have taken a few other steps to make myself more secure. No response from anyone I contacted, and no reaction from her. Doesn't mean anything yet. Just could be people not checking email on Sunday. Patience...

Am proud to say that so far, I have behaved in a completely mature and respectable way. The changes I started to make in myself a year and a half ago were not for show, but for ME! I am a better person, more in control of my emotions, not quick to anger, and mindful of how I say things.

And I am crushed, and hurt beyond words. Just when I allow my heart a little chance to heal a bit, it gets broken into a million more pieces. How many are left?

Fortunately, the pieces can HEAL.

Puppy

Thanks Puppy! Right now it feels like I'm bleeding out though.

I know. I've been there -- three years ago to the day. It sucks, no two ways about it.

Puppy

Lots of comrades in pain and sorrow here.

Hard to believe it's going the way it is. It's getting ugly and all that can possibly come form that is damage and pain for our son. This woman who claimed she only wanted what was best for our son, and to continue to be my friend, seems to have forgotten all of that and wants to pretend nothing has happened, and escalate things all at the same time.

Try your best to give grace, if you can. Physiologically, she's a mess right now. Her brain is awash with all kinds of love chemicals, and she's not herself. The question is, Is there a woman of quality and character hiding beneath all of that?

Only you can answer that, and only you can determine how long you can wait for her to figure it all out.

Puppy

I would have always though so...until now. I was not prepared for the passive aggressive manipulation, and dragging our son into the mess. I don't know this person...