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Hahahah! The poo, love it!!

So. . . this isn't much, but it's something.

I, too, have a graduation: SIL's H. Back in the day WH and I would have both gone of course, but now he's going to the Friday celebration and I'm going to the Saturday one. I was a little worried SIL would have both of us be there, so I mentioned something like "let me know if wH is going to be there on Saturday."

She wrote back something like, "Oh, are you ready to see him now? Because I can tell him. Just let me know."

And I quickly wrote back no, I didn't want to see him. I mentioned it to make sure both of us weren't there.

Then, as I was driving home, I wondered well, should I?

But then I got SO ANGRY at him! I guess anger really is my first reaction now. No, I don't want to publically exchange pleasantries and sit somewhat next to each other in a ceremony at this time!

I might be mad because it almost seemed through her message that he was ready to see me. And that would make me mad. Why? Because it's kinda like, "Okay, are you totally fine now? Can we be friends now, is that okay?" And I'm just like F-you. Still, I guess. I guess for me, this has to start with the baby now. And if he's not interested in seeing her, then he can't see me.

I'm probably reading way too much into her message. That's why it's so important to me that they DON'T even mention him to me! I guess I should have been more clear in my message that I wanted to make sure we both WEREN'T there.

I want my plan to go through: seeing him for the first time after the birth as soon as I look "normal." With the baby.

The only way I'd deviate from that plan is if he contacted me himself and wanted to get together. I'd CONSIDER that. But none of this through-the-family crap. I'm really sick of it.

Okay, I think I vented enough!

You guys need to check out The Office this week. There was even a line, P, about being "the good guy"!

If it doesn't play in Australia, find it on hulu.com or something. And you'll have to watch the last episode plus this one for it to make sense.

Gatsby- I watched The Office but didn't see any infidelity references! I love that show though! It comes on a couple of hours tonight in the Pacific Northwest!

OK I really think you know what you want. Stick to your plan. Like you said, IF your H contacts you, you will meet him. Otherwise no. (however you might soften a little after your girl is born! And that really would be okay- you can still have boundaries in place to keep your H away!)

Hey NM! When you see it tonight, you won't be able to miss it.

Then, 30 Rock was so funny. So funny I laughed UNcontrollably. (Hooks, that's all I'm saying.) Then that laughter turned into tears! Because I haven't laughed that hard in a long time. And WH used to always laugh at me when I laughed that hard. Not in a bad way, in a good way, know what I mean?

But it's all good now. I think I have a bit of energy to stay up a little later tonight, though, yay!

I am so watching The Office and 30 Rock! I usually wait until I recorded it but your testimonial has convinced me- I would love to laugh!

Hi Piano, how long since you've seen or talked to your WH? I do think it would be a bit strange and uncomfortable to see him at a family gathering, because you would probably feel like you have to be polite and put on a smiley face regardless of how you felt. try not to read to much into what your SIL said... H should not only understand, but also not use this time to be the time to connect. you have every right to feel the way you do! and dont apologize for venting... that;s what we are here for.

Are you okay with not seeing him or speaking to him until after the baby is born?

babydoll- OOPS- this is Gatsby's thread, not Piano's! I have done it, too, though!

Whoa- am watching The Office...I wonder if WH is watching it with OW! Uh....how do they handle watching blatant references to adultery????

the justification for cheating "why is his wife going off and having somethin somethin with me? There must be a good reason"

I know, right? I love how everyone else in the office handled it. Especially Phyllis!

How can they sit and watch that? I love how Michael Scott, bumbling IDIOT, used so many 'lines' that people in As use. I just love it. National exposure.

BD, I think you still meant me even though you said Piano.

Haven't seen him since February. Haven't talked on the phone since March. Definitely okay with not seeing him 'til the baby's born. That's the preference.

As long as he's going to insist that he's the "good guy," I don't want to see him. I will have to once the baby's born, probably. But I won't want to.