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That has to be weird. All those years boiled down to a few pages. Otherwise, how are things?

My church offers Dave Ramsey classes. I'm going to take it after the D. Until it's over I just don't know what my week-to-week resources are going to be.

Well now we are back at square one. Nothing settled and the case is moving forward to trial. Oh Joy. Still have time to settle or better yet change our minds. I'm praying for a miracle.

Really down today.

Hey, I'm with you for different reasons. I received my W's wish list and if she gets her wishes she'll be receiving nearly triple what I bring home -- and she won't take on any of the CC debt.

Wow. I can't believe yours is going to trial. How did that happen? Cold feet on her part? Bad L advice. A trial can't be in anyone's best interest.

Hey Bart. I've been catching up on your thread and also just read Jack's thread about the value of supporting your fellow LBS's going through the same Sh*t. I'm sorta new here but just wanted to stop in and say I'll try to help where I can if I have any relevant experience. I'm dealing with trying to detach right now and it is very difficult.

Just wanted you to know you're not alone ...

Hey Bart -

What terms of the agreement did she not like? Just wondering.

CTH and Eric,
I'm not sure exactly what she wants. She came back from her L office saying she doesn't want to end up destitute. Still wants to be D but she says she is struggling financially. That being said she ended up signing the legal separation agreement or at least part of it. Now I'm stuck again in waiting land. I asked her what she wanted to do and got no response. Only thing she asked me was if I was still going to assume full custody if she goes into the reserves and is deployed.

I ran into her at the store yesterday and we had a nice conversation. I was very nice and friendly. Starting to feel for her and the pain she must be going through.

She is caring on with a OM. Seems to spend every free moment with him. D12 says she talks to him on the phone all the time. I've met the guy. He is a "Nice Guy".

She is so messed up. This is really hard to watch. I'm not really angry anymore. Just kind of sad watching this drama unfold. I pray that there is an end in sight.

Truegritter,
Thanks for stopping by with the kind words. Means allot.

C-Bart

Just found W secret phone...several "I love you text", so I guess this will be A # 2. I angry but will not do anything rash. I have a call into my attny. She is still in the house and may not know that I know. Something tells me that this may get ugly.

This sucks!

That is a fine example of how the journey goes with MLC. You just get to a point, similar were you are at, that the real truth starts to unfold.

I just don't get divorce laws in our country. The person pressing for a divorce needs to be taken care of. They are the ones leaving! How is it that they are the ones leaving, but they should be entitled to some form of financial compensation. Maybe in instances were the person leaving can prove an affair, physical abuse, etc.....the key being able to "prove" it. Not just your word against mine.

I hate to say it....but our countries is really starting to become whacked.

My biggest complaint at this point is that the court will allow her to continue to draw this out. We are going on a year that this has been an active case. She has done nothing to move things forward. They set deadlines for things to get completed and then move them out. Think they need a lesson in boundaries!

I do find it ironic that she thinks I'm a good father, wants to be friends and is more than happy to take my money but being M to me is a no go.