Actually I didn't hit him with the suggestion that morning it was when he called back that afternoon to tell me he was feeling better.
I feel he does this sort of thing a lot, but he does do it to other people as well, so I think what I have to do is just accept that is the way he is and not to take it personally. As I KNOW he does it to his family as well.
He also indicated on Friday that he was going to try to come over today, but I didn't hear anything from him today at all.
Didn't do bad today. Had some down spells in the afternoon, as I kept thinking he would come over but picked back up and overall descent day.
I guess calling and letting me know if he was or wasn't planning on coming over might lead to him feeling controlled if he felt he needed to let me know. I just feel it is the polite thing to do, but like I said his family is very proper and he was raised very prim and proper, I'm afraid us girls pretty much run wild. Not on the town or anything but we spent most of our time in the barn or on our ponies. So he would have a much better idea of what is proper or polite than I would. But he does that and he also a lot of times won't answer at all when I am talking to him or he says "Huh" like what is that supposed to mean? Ok, enough venting!
I think I will just drop it, I was upset when I posted and I don't want him to feel controlled.
He doesn't answer my emails. I had hoped that might be an effective way for us to communicate but it doesn't work that way.
That is the thing about where we are right now there is no good way for us to talk, we do the joking short little things on IM, but he doesn't call after work hours, doesn't answer emails and doesn't come over very often. So how are we supposed to do any interacting?
I guess the answer at this time is he isn't where he wants to do any interacting and I just need to get over it.
I would not think he would worry about a long conversation on the phone as generally we have pretty short phone conversations when we do have one.
I guess I was just venting some frustration about a habit of his that bothers me!
Positives:
1. Got some of the things on my list done. Some I didn't as I did different things, but the positive part is I did get some stuff done. Didn't sit in front of the computer the whole weekend!
2. Read a book yesterday evening and finished after grocery this morning. Very relaxing.
3. The shelties are great snuggle bugs if you want to take a nap on the sofa. If he can Frostbyte likes to lay on top of me.
4. Felt happy inside again this morning and PMA wasn't too bad for part of the day.
5. Didn't get that have to get home feeling while at the grocery this morning.
6. Got the sheltie nails and hair on feet trimmed and FB was a little angel, used to I had to have David help hold him still. Maybe because he is spending so much time with me now he trusts me a bit more to do his nails. He was still very nervous but didn't move at all. Little feet pads were sweating some by the time I finished.
7. I think the smell is mostly gone now!!!!!!!
8. I got enough things done in the house that it feels a bit better to walk into again!
9. Breeze is eating pretty good right now.
10. I am feeling like I want to keep grooming on the shelties, hope that lasts! They need ears cleaned and trimmed, teeth cleaned and actually everyone could use a bath just for good measure.
Pam
"We must be willing to let go of the life we had planned so as to have the life that is waiting for us"
If I decide to send David any more emails I will post them first. But I don't think that is the case. It goes along with his not returning phone calls. His family has always complained about him not returning phone calls or answering emails. Just his 'thang' I guess!
He actually said the last few emails I did send him he thought were nice and clear and he kept saying he was going to answer them. So far no go, but hey if he is spending the time reading and posting on the bb instead of answering me I guess for now that works! Just that eventually we will have to figure out a way to communicate with one another!
I have a positive to add to last night!
David showed up right after I had turned the lights out and crawled in bed! He fixed the microwave and said he didn't smell gas in the house. I said no the smell is pretty much gone now whatever it was that caused it.
He sat on the kitchen floor, glad I had just swept it! and leaned against the cabinets and sort of dozed I think. Not much conversation. Hey Sage!!! I listened and didn't say much or try to bring up anything!!!!!!!!!
He did thank me for being patient about the microwave and the smell in the house! WOO HOO! I did something right. I wasn't near as patient as he might think. But at least he didn't know it.
He offered to work on my computer again but he was struggling to stay awake and feeling real tired. Didn't think that was the best time to start a project we already knew didn't just go like it should.
I had left him voice mail early afternoon asking about getting the other microwave moved to where I could use it so I had it to fix my dinners. When he was sitting in the bedroom describing all of his symptoms then he said do you want me to fix the microwave and I said YES! I then asked if he got my voice mail and that was why he had come over. He said yes he got it but he came over because he just tonight had felt like coming over. I think that is a good thing. He could have just said he came because of the microwave.
So very quiet visit, but I think he appreciated that and I sent him some kind of tea cocoa stuff that he likes to see if it helps his throat feel any better.
He is still pretty sick. Sure hope I don't catch it.
Interesting note. When I think about it, other than the two darn PMS days I unleashed last week, our interactions I think have slowed down I actually do talk less and listen more and have been I think positive or at least non emotional type interactions.
Maybe once he feels better he will come over more often. That is if he ever gets to feeling better.
Pam
"We must be willing to let go of the life we had planned so as to have the life that is waiting for us"
I have noticed now that I am taking spells of not posting to other threads much off and on. Not sure what is up with that as I have been reading still. Maybe just feeling nothing to add? I hardly posted all weekend this time.
Pam
"We must be willing to let go of the life we had planned so as to have the life that is waiting for us"
Pam, think very hard. What good behaviours on your part may have led up to his visit? And what good things on your part made it a good visit? This is important for future good visits and for more of the good stuff...woooohoooo for you two!
Ok YIPPEE!!! I made a phone call and some stuff on something I have been putting off, not anything hard, I just think the general apathy, depression or whatever was keeping me from getting much done. I had been forcing myself to get minimal stuff done but seem to be moving towards being more proactive and I LIKE IT!
I have made a list for tonight as I noticed over the weekend knowing I had a list on my thread pushed me a few times when I would have blown it off and getting what I did get done I think has helped pick me up.
List for this evening:
Clean back yard
Wash shelties dishes
Water plants
Get fall candles out and light them this evening.
Sweep and vacuum downstairs
Do load of laundry
Clean at least one thing in the bathroom
Pam
"We must be willing to let go of the life we had planned so as to have the life that is waiting for us"
So he would have a much better idea of what is proper or polite than I would. But he does that and he also a lot of times won't answer at all when I am talking to him or he says "Huh" like what is that supposed to mean? 
Ok, enough venting! 
But I don't think that is the case. It goes along with his not returning phone calls. His family has always complained about him not returning phone calls or answering emails. Just his 'thang' I guess! 
