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thanks for all the replies and bday wishes. i really appreciate it.

Please keep me and my family in your prayers. I wish I could fix everything. I cannot stand to see my family broken up and hurting and things like this happening but I hope things go better.

WAW has insurance through the hospital she is going to (same one for her epilepsy) so it can only help her.

I think she'll realize that. At least I hope she does

Since you are not working when do you plan to see your IC?

I know this sounds harsh but the constant *sighs* and frowny faces really need to stop. It does nothing for you. You cannot fix what you cannot control and you never will be able to control anybody but you.

left vm for I.C. going to fit her 12 week program in.

Yea I know C.G. I know I cannot control things like the sims but it's hard to watch.

Yes, it is very hard to watch people we care about self destruct. That is exactly why I find you hard to watch... because you are self destructing.

Nobody will disagree this is hard. It has been established it is hard. What good will reminding yourself each second how hard it is do?

I have heard you talk about SD8 but missed the info on your other two kids. Are they hers, yours, both of yours? Where do they live? Just curious how they fit in with your work and health issues, job, and things with your wife...I don't hear as much about them as SD8. Thanks.

BobbiJo - I know I am not James but thought I would answer your questions until he comes along in case you have some immediate insight for him.

James has two children from two different women (neither his W) and both he and the biological mothers have lost custody of both of them. I believe the godparents have sole custody at this point.

James - why aren't you working out a plan with the biological mother of your children to co-parent to get back shared custody? That has always confused me!

s10's mother and I have joint have custody of him. My parents have my visitation rights. I missed a custody hearing because I had a probation hearing the same day years ago and have been trying to get it reversed. I want to fix the child support and health issues I have first though. s10's mother abandoned him for about 4 years and left him with the godparents and I consistently just came around as i have most of his life. . He resides in the same city as me. We just dont get to see him because his mother is an ASS.

s3's mother and I have joint custody of him. he resides in the city as well. She just refuses to follow court order.

touche'

waw was released some hours ago. I'm bored so I looked through her phone since she left it with me. Good God she had to be on every freaking online dating site in the history of online dating.

I dont know if this can ever be fixed. It's too many issues. She misses me and loves me but she seems addicted to dating services and e.a's and p.a's.

She's getting some help though.

I just gotta focus on me. Maybe i'll start dating in a little while. Who knows. Gotta get healthy first.

I love WAW but I don't know what she wants anymore. I mean even now she's calling from her room phone *shrugs*

I need to turn this around. I don't know what good N.C. would do anymore. You can't miss something if you're consistently addicted to online dating sites.

Maybe when she starts work she'll settle down or with counseling.
Or when the newness of it wears off. *shrugs*

I talked to paternal grandmother for SD8. It was not a good conversation. i'm blamed for what happened with sd8 but I did text my side of the story and left it at that. Nothing else really needs to be said. Mind you SD8 is the one who acted out sexually and started this whole thing, but she doesn't think about the other children who got hurt in this matter. Or the fact that I did stuff for her grandchild that her own son wouldn't do (he's never done anything for sd8) but whatever.

Tommorrow is form filling out day. Get all of these forms done pretty fast and just do it big

well i have filled out some forms. Getting some things done. As I stated, WAW was released from hospital today. She's mad and hurt by me having her put in there. I did not know the procedure would be for them to cuff her and take her away.

She said she's done. I saw her earlier. I gave her back her cellphone and gave her the weekly allowance as promised.

WAW stated she's done. She said she's tired of us argueing. I agreed and validated. She said she knows my intentions are good. She sees me trying to change but she can't deal with it anymore. I validated but was sad.

She went into her place. Then came out. She saw the tears on my face. I was taking my stuff and leaving and she said she knows I didn't mean to hurt her.

I stated that lately she only sees the bad things that occur. Whenever we have a positive date or encounter or phone call she overlooks those because of the bad things.

She stated that she can only see that right now even though the good moments have been special to her.

I stated for her to not give up on us. That we both do not know how to deal with the stress and emotions we have.

WAW told me she is getting an ANTIDEPRESSANT AND HAS COUNSELING ON MONDAY!

she told me I needed to do the same and right now she's not ready for a relationship and we need to get ourselves together.

I'm realizing that I'm not sound mentally emotionally and physically right now. I need to fix some things before me and WAW can totally resolve our issues

like you guys have stated the flowers, cards, dates, and everything are nice surface things but we need to find out what is going on under the surface and dig deep to resolve those issues.

I asked her why she is so angry with me alot she said she doesn't even know she just has all of this rage.

I told her I would give her alot more space. She told me to email her or call her when I got home cause she wanted to talk to me about what we were talking about when I left and came home.

I didn't stay long. I wanted her to have her space. She needs time I need time. But she is going to counseling next monday. I hugged her and smiled.

she also got her job back from earlier this month. She told me how she wanted to sing and go back to college.

We have moments of clarity openedness and honesty but there's alot to be done.

We both admitted we have problems that need counseling. So that's good.

I only wish she could stop her A's

waw did comment on my weight loss (she noticed) and my new clothes.

I think we may be ok but only time will tell.