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OK, This is really but I have no clue where to call, David pays the bills and has all the bills with him.

I don't even know the darn name of the gas company.

I did leave him a voice mail on his cell phone last night and he may get that today.

In the meantime I am going to start going through the house.

Nothing seems to be affecting the shelties and their noses are much more sensitive than mine!

I promise to post later what I find out. Not so duh feeling now!



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OK. You could call 911.

It may be on the water heater or furnace. Actually it should be. Go to wherever those are (cellar?) and look.

Or, you could call David and ask for the name of the company.

After this is resolved I strongly suggest you get a copy of at least one bill for each utility from David.

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I will look and I agree I need at least one bill or the numbers and account numbers off of them.

I did call David last night but he doesn't usually answer the cell phone so I left a voice mail on it.

Hopefully he will get it today.

I want to post my first positive of the day!

David had shared yesterday before I left work that he may not post much last night. I didn't think too much about it last night. This morning I started ASSuming he was possibly going out with OW last night and knew in advance that he wouldn't be posting. So PMA took a drop.

I wrestled with my ASSumpitons, my controlling nature and I won!!!! I don't know what he did last night, but that isn't my concern. I am my concern and there is no reason for my emotions to end up in the basement. So I'm back to having a pretty good PMA today.

Feel much more like tackling looking for the house problem today than I did last night. I was feeling pretty yucky, but much better today.


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I wrestled with my ASSumpitons, my controlling nature and I won!!!! I don't know what he did last night, but that isn't my concern. I am my concern and there is no reason for my emotions to end up in the basement. So I'm back to having a pretty good PMA today.





Oh, Pam....every single time you have a victory like this you grow stronger and stronger. I am SO happy that you were able to see the benefits of your hard work.

Congrats!
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Hi Sage,

You know it almost feels unreal to me that I was just letting all those yucky thoughts get me down and that I was able to finally let go of them. The unreal part for me is I got NO outside reassurances and I WORKED through them!

No, it didn't happen right away. I sat here and played cards, read on the bb and some news stuff, finally got up to move and it must have just finally worked on through me.

Gosh I feel so much better!!!



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House update:

Still don't know what the smell is, I didn't smell any gas outside this morning like I thought I did once last night.

The shelties are still in and playing and feeling fine and I don't feel bad today so I guess last night I just had something making me feel bad or maybe whatever is smelling just bothered me.

I am going to turn the heat up now and check to see if I have heat coming out of all the registers, maybe the cats have pulled some of the duct work down. They do that once in awhile and David has to put it back up.

It is more of a musty smell in a way, I think I more thought about it being gas after I thought I smelled gas outside and after I started feeling bad.



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Would it be too controlling to ask if you guys would try to talk David into going to the doctor?

He called in response to my voice mail last night. He said he crashed last night but he feels even worse today.

He has been sick it seems like forever now.

I am big on letting things run their course and not going to the doctor but he isn't getting well and has to be getting really run down now.

I would make him an appointment with my doctor if he wanted as he doesn't have a doctor. Or give him the number but more likely if he would go he would prefer I call for him.

Any thoughts on this one?

He sounds horrible this morning.

Oh yeah I doubt he went out to dinner with OW, but I had already kicked that on my own, long before he called!


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Would it be too controlling to ask if you guys would try to talk David into going to the doctor?

He called in response to my voice mail last night. He said he crashed last night but he feels even worse today.

He has been sick it seems like forever now.

I am big on letting things run their course and not going to the doctor but he isn't getting well and has to be getting really run down now.

I would make him an appointment with my doctor if he wanted as he doesn't have a doctor. Or give him the number but more likely if he would go he would prefer I call for him.

Any thoughts on this one?

He sounds horrible this morning.

Oh yeah I doubt he went out to dinner with OW, but I had already kicked that on my own, long before he called!




glad you kicked the thought of ow...

as far as getting david to go to the doctor...all you can do is suggest it once and let him be in control of himself.

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Hi LL,

I won't try to push him about going to the doctor, but I do think that Monday I will ask and offer to make him an appointment.

I still don't know what is wrong with my house but I feel really stupid about posting the gas question last night.
I think I just felt so sick and couldn't think of anything else that would be making me that sick. But the smell is still here and the shelties and I seem fine today.


I also feel bad about my mom. She called a bit ago and I talked to her for quite a while. She said well you sound better today. I said yeah, I feel better today. She said well the last times I have talked to you when I have been able to reach you, you seemed not to want to talk. I said no I hadn't much wanted to talk to anyone lately. She said she thought I was pretty down and she was getting pretty worried about me.

I know I could have answered her calls more often or called her back once in awhile.

She can just be so negative to talk to at times I hadn't felt like dealing with her.

She always has a sad story it seems that she knows about that happened.

But we had a good conversation this morning and I might even go to the big rodeo with her next week.

Got one of my items on my list done!


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I won't try to push him about going to the doctor, but I do think that Monday I will ask and offer to make him an appointment.





Pam,

honestly, he's a grown man...he knows he doesn't feel well..if you are concerned about him and want to express that concern you might just say "have you thought about seeing a doctor" and leave the rest to him...offering to make apts for him and the like is in a way asking for control.

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I still don't know what is wrong with my house but I feel really stupid about posting the gas question last night.
I think I just felt so sick and couldn't think of anything else that would be making me that sick. But the smell is still here and the shelties and I seem fine today




just to be safe I would call your local gas company anyway. Do you have oil heat or propaine heat or natural gas? depending on wich one you would (I assume) call or rule out different things. You don't neccessarily need to call your own gas co. but I think just to be safe you should have it checked out. better safe than sorry.

hey wait a min...didn't I just treat you the way I told you not to treat david?

I hear ya about talking to mom....sometimes all people have to talk about is the gloom and doom of the world. Why not try dbing her?
going to the rodeo with her sounds fun!

LL

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