Atlanta, GA 5/04/2010 03:54 PM GMT (TransWorldNews)
Tiger Woods is allegedly ready to move on from estranged wife Elin Nordegren. Sources say the golfer will be ready to date again if Nordegren files for divorce.
“He’s not hiding anymore. He’s friendly and outgoing, some would say flirtatious,” an insider reveals. “If the marriage ends, it’s obvious he’s not going to want to be alone for long. He wants to go out again, he wants his life back. And with Elin around he has not been sitting at home waiting for her.”
Meanwhile, Nordegren was spotted in her native Sweden over the weekend. A source claims the former model is set to move there with her and Woods’ two children.
amg, that's exactly it: I'm always looking for "one more thing." Sometimes, though, you DO actually find a bit that you'd missed before, as I have by going through H's FB photo and OW's Website. So even though it's sort of torture, it can also be productive.
I didn't realize before this all blew up on me how much of a red flag H's obsessive Blackberry use was. He'd always been busy on the phone because of his work, though he now has an assistant to handle calls on weekends or if he's in meetings or at lunch. But he's been attached to that thing for a while now, obsessively checking emails, texts and Facebook posts.
I know what you mean: if you can't ask simple questions without getting an honest response, you're obviously the only one interested in working on the M right now. Think your impulse is the right one.
H 42 Me 47 DS 7 T 18 M 16 Bomb: 4/20/10 H leaves to live at Mom's: 4/30/20
My sitch: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=1990503#Post1990503
^^^ Yes and finding that "one" thing you didn't see before, keeps it all going in a vicious circle. As to whether it's "productive" or not...I'm not sure. In my case, if I weren't still looking at cell recs, I wouldn't know about the IMing. I asked him about it, he resisted, and now I'm going dark. So what that productive...depends how you look at it I guess but in the end the stress it puts on me is more than any "benefit" I think.
M--14 years T--20 years, HS sweethearts dday #1--2002 EA dday #2--2005 bar sl*t dday #3/4--Feb 2010 texting/cell/physical/who knows what Shortly after found out he had been injecting steroids for 2 years
I wanted to update this thread for anyone else who might be wondering about whether to stop looking at cell records or not. For me, I had spent 3 months poring over cell records online, going back 6 months, comparing dates/calls/texts/and internet activity from the phone. I was also closely watching his email and credit card statement online during this time. I was wearing myself out physically and mentally and actually missed work twice ALMOST SOLELY due to logging on in the morning and seeing something upsetting.
A week ago I accepted that I had seen enough. I know he's still hiding something. I don't know what it is. It could be big--or small. But what I DO know is that he's not working on our M much (if at all) and is still continuing to lie in some capacity. And that's all I need to know. So when I accepted this a week ago, I asked my friend to change the password to the online cell access. I was nervous...what would I do with out this info?
What has happened in my case is that it's been the best thing I've done in the 3 months since this happened. Not only am I not looking at the cell recs, I've also NOT LOGGED INTO his email one time (though I still know that password and can't change it) and have virtually stopped looking at the credit card statement online too. I'll see the bill when it shows up--I don't need to spend my time looking at it daily.
I know I could't have given up the cell recs until I was ready. Until I could see that I didn't need to know more. Until I could see that looking at them was "keeping me off my game" as Puppy put it. I'll admit I do wonder about them from time to time (it's only been one week). But the "unburdening" benefits of not seeing them have FAR outweighed the benefits of anything I'd see there.
If you are in a situation like mine, and find yourself wondering about stopping looking at the records, I highly recommend you give it a try WHEN YOU FEEL READY. For me, once I 'knew enough' and was wondering if looking at the records what hurting more than helping, that was the time.
Hope this helps someone.
M--14 years T--20 years, HS sweethearts dday #1--2002 EA dday #2--2005 bar sl*t dday #3/4--Feb 2010 texting/cell/physical/who knows what Shortly after found out he had been injecting steroids for 2 years
