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OMG. I just got off the phone with W. She ended the call by saying "I love you. Just wanted to say that."

That my friends is a mind blower.

C-B,

That is definitly a mind blower. Your sitch gets stranger and stranger.

The OM calling - you did better then I would of done. It will be interesting to see how things transpire from that conversation.

Does your W know that he spoke with you?

If he agrees with you and follows through I can see that causing a little conflict between them. As long as he agress with everthing she says she will be happy but the minute he disagrees then maybe she'll start to see.

The "I love you" might be an attempt to see if you are still on the side lines waiting for her?

How did you respond to that?

Matt

I honestly did not know how to respond. It was a total deer in the headlights moment. She called back a few minutes later to apologize saying it just slipped out. I still didn't respond other than to say its ok and thank you.

Yes W knows OM called me. Says she didn't know he was going to call and she didn't ask him to call. Typical behavior for her as she never know, does or says anything. They just kind of happen despite her. I made some wise crack about the next time she gets a D she should probably not have OM call her H.

Guess I'm just going to stand by and let things evolve from here. If she truly has feeling for me she has allot to sort out. I would not wish that on anyone.

CB,

I think you handled that well.

Stand by and let things evolve - Thats all you can do.

Hang in there!

Matt

C-Bart

Standing by is a good thing. Your a class act dude...a class act.

Eric

Well I guess I'm going to get a D. Just got an updated letter from W's L suggesting changes. Biggest one is dissolution versus separation. Other things regarding custody schedule were expected. Couple of other things I didn't expect were in there as well. These things are a bit irritating and are reflective of the MLC mind set of walking away and having no responsibilities.

Now I'm feeling a bit down. Guess there was still a big part of me that wanted a miracle to happen. At the same time I know I'll be ok. I'm just worn out by this process. Its hard to realize you've got new shoes on when your walking through the mud.

Thing is Bart....

If you give mud a couple days to breathe...

Without more rain ( I.E. adding fuel to the fire)



It usually dries up and you can walk just fine...

C-Bart - You know that the OM has to be out of the picture before anything could change...right? She obviously is still confused ("I love you") give it time...continue DBing...

But you know all of this....I guess I just wanted to give you some support...maybe a hug will help (((hug)))

C-Bart,
I would not let the separation/divorce papers represent what your W is thinking, wanting or saying. That is her lawyer looking out for her, my W gets full of piss and vinegar after talking to her lawyer, I pay it no attention otherthan to come to an agreement and get the thing behind me. I think she still has to file in your state, right?

Great decision on standing by and letting things evolve. You stay Mr. Cool Cucumber.

Hang in there, I am still around just wanted to pop in and say HI.

Thanks for the support everyone.

She actually came by to talk for a little bit. Says she was just acting on the advice of her attorney. I told her what I was going to have my L do and after that I was done writing documents.

MHL, She filed about more than a year ago and the case keeps getting pushed back because she isn't pushing. Now we have a court date in early May so we are trying to avoid going to trial. This has created a long, drawn out negotiation.