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maybe he's had his head up a cows ass too long..

If he had any estrogen at all, he would know how to care for his children like BBJ does.

He needs to:

USED HIS HEAD!!! (not the little head)

It is all fine to call him names and hurl insults. I was actually serious about something pathologic going on physically or emotionally with him. If so, this places your children in potential harm. I don't know how to compel him to get evaluated or tested. Maybe by documenting his behavior and consulting a lawyer/judge. I am sure it would be difficult to do.

Thanks all and Peter I am happy to see you again! I am glad you don't need this place anymore but still good to hear from you...

I was relating the night to my sister last night, the one who is an attorney in Des Moines. A little girl in her daughter's 1st grade class just had her dad commit suicide as they were in the midst of a D...

Anyway she was concerned and said I should call one of his relatives to have him placed (committed?) somewhere until he can get his mood swings regulated.

Peter I don't know if he is doing drugs I actually think he needs to be on medication. He has been profoundly depressed for at least the past 5 years but I really think he has had personality issues since he was a teen, looking back.

I know, f*ck him and feed him beef. I feel that way about him as an exhusband who betrayed me. But I want my kids to have a stable, content dad not one whose nerves are entirely frayed.


Problem is I would not say a word to his mom, MIL loves to direct the drama and I don't want to give her that pleasure...she wouldn't be in it to truly help him anyway...sadly.

(((((((((((BBJ)))))))))))

I have been in meetings all morning and just now got to catch up with last night's events.

All I can say is......KEEP AWAY FROM THAT TOXIC MAN!

Tell the kids on your own, deal with their pain, and move forward with the confidence of knowing that you are the adult in their lives.

Keep Dan's blowups documented. If worse comes to worse and he starts acting out you may need that for court. Seriously!

Yeah, I don't care why he is the way he is.

The fact is that he's f'd up and it is not BBJ's job to try to fix him.

And some people ARE @ssholes. We just like to fool ourselves into thinking they're sick so that we don't have to realize that they DON'T WANT us anymore.

I have all the texts and emails but I don't know how to get the texts saved off of my phone into something more permanent.

My sister said the same thing last night, document document document....

I think the "I really don't like you...I really don't like me...but I really don't like you" made it pretty clear how he feels about me Kimmie! That plus the "You can hate me for doing this to the kids as I hate you for the same"...

Regardless I do hope he finds a way to pull it together so he can be a present, engaged dad eventually.

You should be able to forward each text to your email.

Well...hmmmm..I would think that that could end up bad...I would think that if battle lines have been drawn on either side of the family (and you know people have formed opinions)then that could be turned into "BBJ is the one who has the problem."

Dan's a manipulator..