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There wasn't an A going on when we started this ordeal. Who knows now, I really don't know what she does with her spare time. And frankly I don't care. When she is ready, she'll let me know when we need to file.

wicked weasel swimwear and some of that oxytocin spray.

I feel this is the question:

"What is the RIGHT thing to do?"

If there is an AFFAIR and you want your Spouse back. DO NOT PURSE.
If there is NOT an AFFAIR and you want your spouse back. DO NOT PURSE.

GO shopping for YOUR mother, take the kids. They will see your behavior. If they want to do something for their mother, they will bring it up to you.

My Dad took my kids out Fathers day shopping (not my ex-wife). I got lots of candy . My Ex-wife is going to get whatever the kids pick out with me, and I have bottomless pockets this time This goes against "The Right thing to do" but it is inline with the therapist. There is a double standard, but I can be patient ( at least for 6 more months...lol)

In the UK Mothers Day was back in March. I had to fight to have my sons for the day. My H didnt want to swop but after my son pleaded with him he did.

Bizarrely and very inappropriately the OW bought my mothers day gift and also made cards with my sons for me. My H then rubbed my nose in it and told me about her making them for me.

I would really have preferred to get nothing. Having my sons for the day was enough for me.

I agree making accomodation for the kids to be with their mother on Mother's Day is the right thing to do. That's a simple flexibility of schedule request.

You got to remind 'em?

My suggestion for you guys with little kids is to let "them" pick something out for Mommy. If they see flowers at Walmart and want to get that, then fine. But, PLEASE, do not order her flowers from the florist and sign the kids' names. They don't have fun nor feel that it's really from them (and it really isn't, is it?) and guess what.....the WAW won't truly like what you did. Oh, she will smile for the kids and she'll say thanks....but her heart will be cold toward you.

Take the kids to a varity story and let them chose something. If it's bubble gum, Mommy will love it (especially if you let the kids wrap it). If they pick a size 3x nightgrown or a pair of fishnet stockings.....whatever, but she will "know" it was all her children's ideas and not the H's. Just don't let them get near the jewlery counter unless you are ready to shell out the dough or take a chance on a $2 pair of earrings. Never can tell about these youngins!

Mothers love it when little children "buy" her a gift. You will see her glow b/c she gets so caught up in seeing her babies excitment in giving her their gift.

I would say the same thing should go for the big kids, too. Just give them a limit they can spend.

If you men always got something for your W in the past, then my suggestion is to find a card or make one... maybe with a snapshot of your kids that says "Thanks for our beautiful children". But don't get dramatic or show a bunch of detailed work, b/c that will say toooo much to her. You can find tons of cards for the mother of your children....but....they are waaaaaay too mushy for the stitch. Keep it simple.