A lot of talk and a lot of opinions and I thank you all for them, however Kerry keeps hitting closets to the mark.
Originally Posted By: Kerryk
Just keep doing what makes you and your D happy. Your health should be high on that list, as the older you get, it becomes harder to stay in shape.
It is your choice Lan. I understand why you are sticking it out....
So quite simply I'm staying in the house not the marriage.
Originally Posted By: Daddy LongShanks
Why wait? Life is too short. A lady who values you will boost your self-worth and improve your quality of life by a ton. Your going to do the same thing for her, thats the whole point.
Another R is not on the agenda, and another M, never!!
I’ve just started thinking about something’s for 2010. I’ve signed up for the 10K run I ran in 2008, (W’s ****ing about caused me to miss 2009)
I ran my 10k race and beat my 2008 time by 9 seconds. I'm very pleased by that, and I'm signing on again for 2011 as D8 wants another medal to make her proud again .
Not much happening with W, we had a brief "sniper fire exchange" yesterday, she's still in her own world and believes we are not talking cos I'm ignoring her and it has nothing to do with her and her "friends". Anyway I'm not trying to unravel any of that so we continue as we are.
FIL is asking why I don't come round anymore (W tells him I'm too busy) I've learnt it's best to keep FIL & MIL out of the loop. I'll leave it W to let them know whats going on.
BIL & and SIL who have been very supportive in the past have invited me round for dinner this coming Sunday. I think I will take up their invitation, I've been missing a good old Sunday roast.
Other than that I'm doin ok and looking for another challenge (I need to get on my bike now).
Congrats on your time....usually we get slower as we get older.
Sniper fire? Friends? Hmm...how long can you go on like this and what are your long range goals with this relationships. Has she become a roommate that you can no longer stomach? How is your D being affected by all this (or are you guys careful with the collateral damage). She obviously does not see any amorous echanges between you and W. Does that concern you at all?
Any long term ideas on how Lan can be satisfied on a consistent basis sexually? My XW was also not up to the frequency I desired. The last girl friend was the opposite, but I lost my desire for her. I'm hoping that the latest lady and I are compatible in the bedroom. Sex is still pretty darn important for me - even at the age of 50!
I have no long term goals for this R, seems it can die a natural death, W has become the room mate I just ignore. How long do we go on like this ? I dunno, maybe until one of us cracks.
The weekend skirmish, was a first, we don’t argue in front of D8, however the little one isn’t daft and she’s already picked up for herself that mum and dad aren’t friends. She’s said a few funny things like "Dad don’t split up with mum cos she’ll will be mad at you", or "don’t let mum dump you cos I’ll have to go and live with her". But in general she just see’s us as mum and dad.
Kerry Going back to how long do we go on like this, maybe if I’m involve with someone else things will change, although there’s nothing on the horizon. But one of the thing I decided for the new road 2010 was if W and I were not having sex I would move on.
As for the world cup, I’ll be expecting some banter amongst us so.
Lan, Sounds like you're going somewhere but don't know where you're headed and when you'll get there. Glad you're seeing some nice wayside scenery out of the window on the way tho' - the 10k race and USA vs England.
((Lanzo)) I haven't forgot about you, my friend. I was in such hopes things would be better. I tell you the same as I told Mr. Bond......I feel as if I repeat myself all the time and don't know what else to say, but I still care very much. I admire you men who have not given up and hang in there....especially for your child.
God Bless, Sandi
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
It a shame about the whole situation, but I’m not hanging around anymore for the sake of the M. I’m just here to give D8 a stable(ish) environment and to make sure she gets a good education.
Other than that I need to find new things and new people to fill my time.
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