I am sure there are a few, but the handful of kids Nathan is closest with all have intact marriages. I cannot say whether they are happy, but they are intact. And my 2 sisters and Dan's 2 sisters are still married, as our both of our parents. So he does not have anyone to look to as an example of what 'divorced' is, except on TV.
BBJ the irony of your posting...looking to find friends who HAVE divorced parents...
It sucks big time. I am just getting caught up. Methinks telling about the cheating is not a good idea, not to hide anything from the kids or make Dan look better, but to prevent them from thinking that could potentially happen to them at a future date n a relationship, creating unnecessary anxiety. Make sense?
Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..
My parents explained the divorce to me when I was 5. we were moving back to our home town and they didn't want us to hear it from anyone else. My biological Mom cheated on my Dad when I was a baby, so the Mom I have is the only one I know. Never met my biological Mom.
Anyhow, I was really confused, thought my Mom had cheated but that he forgave her and they were still together. They had to re-explain it to me again when I was 8 and then I understood. Little did they know at the time I have a really good memory and can remember my Dad dating the summer I turned 2. So I would have figured it all out eventually.
Maybe keeping it simple but still truthful is the way to go.
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
No, I have no intentions of saying he cheated, unless he marries/lives with ow down the road. I just won't whitewash it to the point that some counselors do, where mom and dad say they 'just couldn't make it work', it was 'nobody's fault' and 'these things happen'...gag!
Ok just got done with a 3 mile hilly run and my allergies are acting up. Those flowering trees are pretty but the smell makes me nauseous!!
I know what you mean. I told ex that if we ever broke up they were going to know the truth that it wasn't us just not getting along. What did we fight about? His affair!!
He told the kids about OW when I was taking a drive to cool off after an argument. He did everything about the whole situation his way which amounted to cowardly and cruel. Back and forth take your pick. That is why I think it is really important that you both be there.
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
