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You think that I was always like this?

You think I don't understand that it is EASIER to whine about crap than to make the effort to change. To wish your life away?
Sadly...it isn't easier...we have just trained ourself this way, to the point where it is difficult to actually do something.

It is easier to wish to whine, and feel bad about ourselves later and down the road.

Hi D, so much of your post could have been written by me.

Here's the thing, we have no choice but to walk this journey.
Now we could leisurely walk it, or we could freakin' get in the game.

I know how easy it is to have the mindset you do. I had it for a very long time and it still creeps in from time to time.

So, think about something you have always wanted to do. Really think about it. It could be something outrageous, something you think you can never really do. Or it could be something simple and small. Doesnt matter. Just figure one thing out.

Sometimes the only way to do something is to just do it, ya know?

You can. Just do it.

Yes.

I'm really not trying to whine about it. I honestly do not know where to start.

I know that I can DO anything. I DO it all ---- everything that I HAVE to do. I do everything that MUST be done. That is what I DO.

I am here because I do not know how to find me---who I am, what I want. Should be easy. For most people it must be. I can just "DO." I can continue living life as I am - getting through each day minute by minute, doing for others, getting by ---- but I do want more.


I don't want to wish my life away. I am not a whiner in life. I've whined here about my sitch. I've whined about my fate - here. But I'm DONE whining. I'm done feeling sorry for myself. I'm not whining about not knowing where to start - I do not know.

Maybe I'm in the wrong place. If you can steer me somewhere else, I'll go.

You're not in the wrong place, sweetie. I still don't know which way to go. Still trying to find me, what I want, how I want to live.

But, the only way to figure it out is start thinking. What are you interested in, what did you always want to find out more about? Is there anyone that you have looked at and said, wow, that must be an interesting job or that you wished you could be more like?

Just start writing things down. Whatever comes into your head. Places you might be interested in seeing, hobbies you never had time for. Join a book club, see if there are any meetups in your area.

It will come to you. You will figure it out. Just start small and see where it leads you. Just be open to anything and everything.

I think you should become a softball official.

Then you can throw your H out of the game.

You may be on to something OP! Tonight D13 told me that H told her last night that she hasn't been pitching enough~that she is now an "average" pitcher.......said he made her cry. I wish I knew why that seems like the right approach......

You may be on to something OP! Tonight D13 told me that H told her last night that she hasn't been pitching enough~that she is now an "average" pitcher.......said he made her cry. I wish I knew why that seems like the right approach......

You may be on to something OP! Tonight D13 told me that H told her last night that she hasn't been pitching enough~that she is now an "average" pitcher.......said he made her cry. I wish I knew why that seems like the right approach......

You may be on to something OP! Tonight D13 told me that H told her last night that she hasn't been pitching enough~that she is now an "average" pitcher.......said he made her cry. I wish I knew why that seems like the right approach......

You may be on to something OP! Tonight D13 told me that H told her last night that she hasn't been pitching enough~that she is now an "average" pitcher.......said he made her cry. I wish I knew why that seems like the right approach......