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I have exposed to the OMW...now what?

She wants to talk to me more tomorrow or meet up. She wants to work together to break up the affair. I am not sure what I should do? It will be interesting.

I am not sure what my wife is up to. I think she is planning for a divorce. She was real quiet this weekend with him, but I was alert for any evidence that they were communicating. She slips up. She is getting sloppy because I am very dark and quiet. I never say anything about the affair to her anymore. Heck, I hardly say anything to her at all.

I hate this, but it must be done for me and hopefully my family will survive intact from this affair. Divorce is not an option for me unless she files.

I wonder what the OMW will have to say tomorrow.

I have been taking the kids to church Sundays and talking to other people while they play. I guess that is GALing for me at the moment. In a week I start my temporary job. I have some part-time jobs that I could take probably if it goes to divorce from her.

She is definitely up to something. I cannot let my guard down.

I need as much as advice as possible for talking to the OMW.

Just give her the evidence, and let her deal with her family issues on her own. and be careful sometimes woman in these situations like to revenge f**k, and that might not be something you want to get involved with right now. or not.

might want to tell your wife you cant stand looking at her cheating face anymore and its best she moves out. unfit mother strikes a nerve. its time she faces reality.

the rest depends on how much courage, self-respect and Valium you have.

Hey Steve,

How ya doing? Good to hear from you. It has been a while.

No I am not into a revenge f*** of any kind. Not my style. I am into letting them know that there are consequences for their action.

I am close to the point where I will tell my W to move on when I have tied up some loose ends with the employment situation, so I have joint physical custody.

I am not interested in divorce, but I am not going to be a doormat. If she files, so be it.

I have done some other things, but I will not put them in writing at this point. It may have hurt my cause, but so effing what.

I talked the OMW again today. It was a good talk. She wanted to know about the information that I have. I will send her what I can.

She and her H are having problems in their marriage. I told her what my W said the problems where, and she said, "that is not the truth." I told that my W said they are like roommates, and the OMW said that is not true at all. OM is lying to my W like I thought he was.

OMW needs to take some time to think over what to do. She felt bad that he did this to someone else's family. She had hoped that if he did cheat, it would be with some single lady. I think she will help me when she has had time to process our convo. I hope it is soon because I think that it could have some impact on him. Maybe not too. I don't know, but I think he will be unhappy that I am talking to his wife. I am not sure how this will work out, but I hope something works before it is too late. My W needs to know what this guy is really like.

OMW said that he is such a big disappointment to her. She said, "that the way my W is acting is definitely because of her H. He is not the guy that he appears to be.

She will contact me again soon.

I will see...

LSG,

Its much better if you can meet her in person. Meet somewhere safe where she's not going to worry. Library, bookstore, coffee house.

Your going to properly present your information to show her the current picture.

Daddy - That is a great idea. I am not sure why I did not think of that. It was too easy of an idea. I plan to do just that. I think I will meet at the library to have computer access to show her my records without letting them go.

Its too easy for you to email the info and the wife to show the H, and he shrugs it off or says its fake.

Your going to take your info and make a small "presentation"...

Hey Daddy,

I will let her know the way I would like to do it, and I will see what shes says.

Great idea!

Thanks again!!!

OMW does want to meet this week, so we can talk. I have no expectations either way. She does not really want to say anything about the affair yet. I respect that. I hope she will change her mind on her own. I will just show her what I have and let her decide what is best for her and her family.

I did tell the OMW about Divorce Busting because she seemed to need some support, and this is the place to get it. I hope she will want to tell her husband that I contacted her. He will be the one angry this time. She said he is very narcissistic. I think my wife is starting to think the same way as the OM.

I hope he starts showing his true self to my wife and everyone else. I am sure he will not expect his wife and me discussing their R. I want to put him and my wife in the position they have put me and his W in. I think they will not be very happy. For that, I will be glad. They deserve everything they have coming to them and then some. I am very upset with her right now. It is so irritating for someone to not say "hi" or just show common courtesy.

I know that is the way with the WAS. My W is no different.