Honestly, I truly think that technology has made A so much more common than before. I HATE technology (although I'm dependent on it and don't know what I'd do without it), I really hate it.
M: 32 H: 34 S:5 D: 3 D: 1 Together 11 years Married 7 Bomb: PA/EA 8/13/09 (for 1 year on and off) ILYBINILWY: 08/09
"The end of suffering happens with the end of wanting." -Laura Munson
Just make sure you COME HERE FIRST, with what you find out, BEFORE trying to confront your wife. You really only get one shot at this, and most people screw it up.
Listen to Puppy! I didn't know about this site when I found out about the OM in my situation, and I regret how I handled it. If I had handled it properly, I am 99% sure I could have at least had the option of reconciling, instead of almost certain divorce, which is where I am now.
I made so many stupid mistakes in the beginning (still do, although not as bad as before and I am getting better at REACTING to things, rather than letting my emotions take over and making an a$$ out of myself and put myself in a worse situation)
M: 32 H: 34 S:5 D: 3 D: 1 Together 11 years Married 7 Bomb: PA/EA 8/13/09 (for 1 year on and off) ILYBINILWY: 08/09
"The end of suffering happens with the end of wanting." -Laura Munson
I'm almost afraid of what I'll learn but will investigate completly!
Prepare yourself for what you might find out. Have a plan to wait. Commit to not doing ANYTHING until you come here and get good advice. Expect the emotional blow to be huge, and the temptation to confront her to be overwhelming.
Puppy is dead on: you will only have once chance to confront her, and it's crucial. If you find out anything, wait!
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