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(((((babygirl)))))

You are sounding so much better.... Not letting him yank you around anymore! You'll get the help you need from friends, and family. Your kids will get better at being able to help, and you'll learn more and more.

If you were closer... well, I am not a plumber, but I can plumb, and I can sit in the living room, or any other room, and make people ask questions!

I really find it amusing that when we start to finally move on, all of a sudden that green eyed monster rears its ugly head!! Like we are doing something wrong by actually GAL instead of just talking about it!!

That is SO awesome he came in and saw you with a guy...well not exactly in that way, but hey he didn't know that!!!

I am wondering how that will work w/Dan since he lives 2 streets over from me...if I have a car at my house over the weekend, or if he 'runs by' with the kids to pick up a forgotten baseball glove or something...how weird that will be. And someday, it's gonna happen....

Lola....Yes the green eyed monster is rearing. and I dont care! I didnt want this life I was handed, but I learned to accept it, and now I think I like it...my daughters have a blast making me up when I go out.....when I see him at ball, I am with the team he dreamed of playing for......and if he ever found out what I did with one of my best girlfriends cause we lost a bet....he would literally die lol!!!

BBJ yes actually it was awesome. J just laughed so hard after he left and said you have no idea all the ideas that popped into my head to do or say, just to mess with his head....I love my friends! Well him living so close will be an adventure....B drives by at all insane times...which is so outta his way but does...he will mention to me or D17 uh whos car was at the house? why was it there still the next morning when I went to work?? LOL it was one of her friends, driving her daddys big ol four wheel drive hahahaha. I dont EVER drive by thier house I have no need to see it, them, anything. I am moved in probably more than he is and i am ok with that!

((((((Babygirl)))))

You know, he's got some stalkerish traits in him. At this point it just sounds like he is being stupid, but stay alert. I don't like to say it, but I could see him turning dangerous, to you, the kids, or any "friends" that you might have. Just stay alert!

When he asks about cars at your place, don't tell him. You could start with "I don't remember", or you could, at some point, move to, "It really isn't any of your concern." Mostly because it isn't!

HUGS!

I have thought about that Jeff. And there has been some scary incidences, but I have managed. Thats what one reason I now have a cell, and yes he could involve danger to my friends, but thank god I have a few big ol boys that he is actually scared of. And to be honest, I have thought about moving, but I love the country soooo much. And part of me gets angry that i feel like I should think about it because of him. His step dad (my now boss) got me a small lil something to always have with me when I am at home, or outside,,,,,i feel safer with that, and its way easier than a big thing....one benefit of my job here is all the involvement with law enforcement people.....if he continues to drive by.....then he will get a lil visit and a restraining order lol! I am being careful, I need to move to a hot dry place not a hot humid place when i move......

I figured you were smart enough to think about that, but sometimes we can be so close to the situation that we don't see it! I think, in his head, he is sure that you could never attract someone, and he's trying to feed his ego by proving that to himself. Of course, yet again, he is wrong!

(((((Babygirl)))))

Thanks Jeff for making sure I thought about things, lord knows for the longest time I lived in a fog......
And I dont kno that i am attracting anyone lol....my job, my sports, my hunting buddies, just keeps me surrounded by a lot of men lol!!

When it's time, and you are ready, you know you will "attract" someone great!

I hope so......someday....prolly need to fix a few things with myself so I have confidence....or take a class on men....how to insure you arent a booty call.........lol since thats been a topic round here as of late hehehehe!!!!!