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Well, my son plays baseball so I get to see quite a lot. lol Games like three times a week and practice. Funny, I can barely find time to take him to a Ranger game, which he would like, because of his schedule!

emmm.....Cards lost today. I was going to make up a I had to work excuse for the board but than i realized that I don't need to make up that excuse for you guys !

so a XW question (finally) she is pissed that I informed her that I was taking her off of my work's health insurance--as spelled out in the agreement. And is demanding that I not do that yet until we talk. I guess there is no reason not to. But really I would like to get all of the financial ties cut so that outside of S2 there is no reason to have to communicate after this week.

What are the thoughts on this one?

by the way I am proud that i figured out how to use the emoti-con thingy!

Good job on the emoticon thing! I just want the option to invent new ones, particularly 'evil knowing grin' and 'neutral face'...

Bummer on the cards. Businessman's Special today? They usually do those on Thurs, don't they? I forgot that...


Re. the wife and insurance, if it is in the decree, I don't see why you need to discuss it, period. As long as you make sure your little one has coverage that is the extent of your responsibility. A big part of getting D'd is that you don't have to communicate about everything anymore and you don't need her permission to do things!

My counselor had me practice a phrase in case I ever had to use it. I have only done it once so far in real life....

"This is what you wanted."

Whenever the ex tries to drag you into a convo about how something isn't fair or it sucks to be her, just tell her "this is what you wanted"....

Hey folks! BBJ you or your C's words are like XW poison! She called and texted over and over (weird how that was never possible while we were going thru everything) and finally I picked up phone to hear her upset that I was getting everything finalized---utilities, insurances, health/dental insurance and put deposit on next home, etc...

I just said---"remember XW this is what you wanted, you have gotten everything that you wanted to get--you should be happy"

Needless to say not happy, but also not my problem anymore. I really only have one more huge hurdle to get thru (at least that I can see for now) and that is moving out of the house next week, that will be tough but I think doable and than I feel I can finally move froward.

Just checking in on my new place here. Today has been a bit up and down as I am packing up and getting ready for my move next week. It has not been as bad as I thought it might have been. It is sad however to pack up boxes and memories of what could have been?

Onward and upward meeting with some friends for pizza and cards game tonight so that should be a good time. For us Cards fans on here they are looking pretty good so far this year (knock on wood)!

Buffet, How true but you sound strong and like you are in a good place, mentally.

G hey and welcome! Sorry I missed your first post over here, must have been a boxes in the way and stuff! I am mentally in a better place than I was a couple of months ago for sure--

You hit a couple of cords in your thread though about feelings coming and going and hitting me at certain times. Just got back from watching the game which was fun, something that I missed doing when I was married and wish I would have done more of. So why tonight when I am doing what I "wanted" than am I missing my W and the marriage that I thought I had.

The only thing that has started to save me from a big funk is that word "thought" because the reality was I was not happy even before the bomb and rather just "dealt" with things b/c that is what I was supposed to do right?

Oh well it is true that we always want what we can not have i guess!

I often wonder if I was happy. I mean, I didn't know of another way of doing things and as this was my first marriage, how would I know the difference?

So good to have learned a lot. Next time around will be better.

kat

I think a lot of us didn't really realize that we were not truly happy. We were not unhappy, just not who we could have been. I did things I wouldn't want to do, and didn't do things that I wanted to do to keep the other happier. But I think that is pretty normal after years of marriage. I became someone that I am truly not. And now I can be who I want to be. But hey, I can't go back to yesterday, I was a different person then.