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Did you date any other women during the time you went out with her? There was a reason for her questioning you.

No. For the 2 weeks her and I were "dating" I stopped.

Well, she just emailed me to tell me she will be starting the divorce when she gets her next paycheck.

I didn't know what to say besides "ok".

She did say she would like to remain friends, and go get a beer together in the future.

stay friends and have a beer together? Are you kidding?

Yeah.

Keep in mind she also told me last week that she thinks we should divorce "so that we can start over for real".

I'm confused.

I believe it is written somewhere in the archives something like "believe nothing of what you hear and only 1/2 of what you see".

I think that this applies here. Wait and see - patience is your strength.

Yeah.

At this point I am just agreeing with the divorce, but letting her handle it.

She already made a comment about how money issues might "force us to be married for a while".


Ugh...

i think your W is very confused right now. I have to agree with teledad's advice. This is definitely going to take patience and strength.

Maybe I'm wrong but it sounds like a decision you made for yourself and assumed she would do the same. Then you were angry when you found out she did not think the same way as you. If it was not discussed, I don't see how you could get angry about it. You don't want to compete with other men in the dating arena is kind of like the H saying he wants 100% recommitment that the WAW will work on the M. It just isn't always that way.

I have heard about women who think they have to get legally divorced in order to start over for real. It's so crazy but maybe she thinks you did not wake up until she left you and you won't start over "for real" unless there is a legal D.

I was never angry with her about it. I want that to be clear.

It WAS a decision I made for myself, and I did not assume she would do the same, which is why I talked to her about it.

I was never, ever angry. I stated my thoughts that if we were seeing each other, I didn't think we should see other people, she said no, I said ok, and that was that. Of course there were more words used than that, but that was the general idea.

I just don't want anyone to think I was angry with her decision. Maybe inside I was, but never to her.

And yeah, about the divorce thing. Theres really not much I can do at this moment.

As I've been told, patience is the key right now.

I'm gonna chill. Sit back and see what happens. Worry about myself.

No contact time.

We'll see what happens.