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yes I also agree that ow is looking for a father figure, and yes h is also trying to recapture his youth aka going for a younger girl so that he can pretend he is that age again also

Since Dec I have seen some reconnecting.
He is now in contact with my brother again. He speaks to them regularly by phone, text and visits.
B/SIL have told H OW is not welcome.
SIL says H always looks depressed. He cries poverty all the time, which they have told him is all his own doing.
H has also reconnected with S12 after 3/4 months of NC. H asks regualry about D, pets, home and me.

I agree with you all that OW is looking for a father figure.
If this is the case and they are both meeting each others needs, how does it ever come to an end?
OW is very needy and clingy and is feeding the ego of H.

Sorry, so many questions. I am a bit down today.
I am doing really well staying detached. The spewing doesn't afect me now and we (me and the kids) usually laugh it off and ignore. I think it may be because I learned yesterday that my friends H has just left for a younger model 2 weeks ago. What is wrong with all these men???

Thanks for your replies Mandyloo. Sorry if I brought back sad times for you.

HUGS

HFC - Needy gets wearing after a while. It's not as much fun as time goes on. Your H will never be able to give enough to fulfill her needs and be able to keep up with her. This in turn will make her resentful and when a better option presents itself she will move on.

This is just IMHO and what I have seen many times with this type of R.

hoping for change, no need to be sorry I am fine, just letting you know that it is all run of the mill sort of stuff, the script if you like, no you didnt upset me at all, x

Thats good. It is unreal how different yet how similar everyone stories are isn't it?
I have read lots of stories where I am tinking - this could be me writing this.
I guess H is sill searching for happiness he isn't goin to find eh?
Lets hope one day they realise what they had and let go of without a thought. I have heard many times that they 'wake up'. I just don't think I am ever going to see it!

Thanks for your advice everyone

HUGS

Yes they all do "wake up" however from the LBS perspective you can not expect that to happen because it can be a very lengthy process. That is why we try to focus on ourselves and how we can be better people. You can learn about MLC but nothing is going to speed up their journey. It will be over when it is done other that that you just have to make some popcorn and watch the movie!

"It will be over when it is done other that that you just have to make some popcorn and watch the movie!"

This MLC movie sucks and I give it a big thumbs down! But, I will enjoy the popcorn with some butter on it!

Just don't tangle up the film!

I agree. I dont' think I could ever sit through it again!

Needy is also very unattractive. It's one of the reasons why we all say do not pursue, chase, cry, plead, etc. It is one thing when they are both pursuing. But one of them will stop and look at the other at some point.