Yeah. I have to go to pipes practice tonight and won't be back till later. I'm interested in seeing what advice I should do about the MC questions and how I should proceed with agreeing with the bomb.
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LMAO - I see my Twin didn't give you fair warning...grin
There are two of us just don't ask which one is the "good" one because depending on who you ask, the answer will vary. smile
I welcome you to the board and I will catch up on your sitch later on this evening...
(((Rob))) ~ Always good to see you - On threads of other people! wink
I know better than to expect straightforward answers from two women in cahoots.
"Wife you're right, it's not working out, we should go our separate ways, you should be with the other guy, in fact I hope you're happy with him, time for me to find someone else too, I hope it works out for you, no hard feelings, bye."
Okay. When do I drop this bomb? ASAP? Doesn't this just put the D in her court? If I am agreeing with her on the D, why maintain the separation? Help me understand the steps here?
--F.
You can do it anytime, probably after you pack her things and put them in boxes and leave them in the driveway or garage for her to pick up. Yes she can divorce you anytime but technically you could too, let her do the work though, she wanted this separation and affair, she can do it, you're not worried anymore, it doesn't matter, that's the mindset, as for the counselling, tell her that if she wants to continue doing it, that's fine but it's up to her, you won't force her to continue, life is short and too precious to waste and if she can't be bothered to attend this then it's no sweat to you either. Happy, Cheerful, life is great attitude throughout all of this, not punitive, mean, a$$holish, jerkish or prickish - it's like you've had an awakening too and this is actually a great thing in disguise.
Success. Had a phone call from W. Kept it upbeat, non-R, and projected "the awesome". Talked about my awesome current reconciliation with my cycling/piping buddy I started today. Dropped some tantalizing hints about what is going on in his world, since she knew him well. She asked about my riding and awesomely told of the many miles I'm doing. She asked if I was going to pipes, and I awesomely told her I was and needed to text one of the guys, so I had to go. Cut the conversation short and said goodbye first.
^^^^^ That applies to Strong and Confident women as well. (I would think)
Fergilicious - Now you're in trouble... you have my TWIN in here now!
Originally Posted By: Fergie
Umm.. lemme guess. You are. That's great! It sure feels great to be thin and fit, doesn't it? I've dropped a size with the D weight loss program and continued exercise. Now I want to keep it going. It's going to be carrot sticks and chicken breasts until I can really kick in the summer exercise program. Woot!
Hey, I have great recipes and nutrition tips on my thread... come on over! Well, that is if you can weed through the shopping talk, my whining about lack of sex, and the rise of SUPERMINDFULL!
Seriously, some good recipes for our efforts!
I'm glad Rob's helping out here, really.
I'm just here for spirit lifting!
You do alot more than that but these forums more than any other seriously require that kind of pick me up, without the right kind of attitude, mindset, positive mental attitude, all the advice we give and all of these techniques we offer won't work at all.
so your counsellor can eat butterflies and poop out rainbows but it ain't gonna change your situation one bit
LMAO - Please answer me one question - Why is it you never visited my sitch? Over a year has been wasted and you could have probably saved me at least 6 months!
And don't say it is because I was scared of you - I seriously doubt that would deter you my friend.
May All Who Seek To Take My Life Be Put To Shame And Confusion; May All Who Desire My Ruin Be Turned Back In Disgrace. ~Psalm 40:14~
Success. Had a phone call from W. Kept it upbeat, non-R, and projected "the awesome". Talked about my awesome current reconciliation with my cycling/piping buddy I started today. Dropped some tantalizing hints about what is going on in his world, since she knew him well. She asked about my riding and awesomely told of the many miles I'm doing. She asked if I was going to pipes, and I awesomely told her I was and needed to text one of the guys, so I had to go. Cut the conversation short and said goodbye first.
She was reconciling the business checkbook.
Woot!
--Fergie
I'll add to this redundancy and say that what you did sounded.... awesome!
Always cut the conversation first, be the first to say bye and hang up, always have something to do, always be too busy to talk to them.
The next time she calls and if it's in the late afternoon, early evening, tell her you can't talk on the phone, you're getting ready to go out with a friend and if she asks who you're going out with, you just tell her, "you wouldn't know them, gotta go, running late, see ya!"
so your counsellor can eat butterflies and poop out rainbows but it ain't gonna change your situation one bit
LMAO - Please answer me one question - Why is it you never visited my sitch? Over a year has been wasted and you could have probably saved me at least 6 months!
And don't say it is because I was scared of you - I seriously doubt that would deter you my friend.
You kept telling me you were afraid of me, I didn't want to offend you with my awesome manly masculine point of view on things, be careful what you ask for, you might get it ;-)
