Karen, I, too, would have a big problem with X taking my kids for any sort of trip without consulting me. Especially the taking them out of school part! There's so much going on at a bike week, what if something had happened, God forbid, and you didn't even know where they were? Are you able to ask the school to clear any arranged absences through you? Guess that may depend on how the custody works out.
I think you're right it will depend on custody. The funny thing is if he'd asked me or told me I would have been fine with it; they got to visit their uncle and granddad there also. I'm glad they had fun. Just the wrong way to go about it; but nothing new there....
I am proud of myself X sent me 2 nasty emails Monday and I deleted them last night when I got home. It felt good to not try to defend myself and just let it go. I hope this will stick!!!
Thanks for the chat, Kat! Glad to get caught up....
D10's IEP meeting was today. That went well, they all love D10, think she's great. X was acting like a normal person, even held the door open for me when we left the meeting. Then he complained about everything--the race I didn't let D10 run a month or 2 ago when she was sick and the day before our D hearing, upset I told D10 that I couldn't afford a trip: D10 told me that he told her he would have the money to take her to Busch Gardens this summer, no, I don't have the money for that, and told her so, and I was glad her dad was going to take her.
I mean full of rage about my trip comment. Upset I'm not helping to pay D10's ot he's taking her to now. One time so far! I took both kids to counseling, ST, and OT last year just thousands of dollars I spent, and reminded him about that. He said that was HIS money (the child support and alimony). Such a lovely guy!
I vented with friends at work, and that helped. Kept busy, I'm actually fine. Ready to have this all over with. I just can't understand how X can keep the anger going for so long. A friend was saying most of what he's mad about seems to be $$$. Prob. true.
I think a year ago I would have been upset all day, but today maybe 30 minutes or so. So some progress there....
D10 was talkative last night (as usual). She told me that she was telling her dad how busy I am, and he insisted no, I'm not busy. She clearly knows I am, so argued with him about that. Then she told him she was going to see that Training a Dragon movie coming out in a week or so with me instead of him, b/c he took her to about 50 movies this past year. He told her well I could have taken the kids to the movies, I could have afforded it but I just didn't. So D10 argued with him about that, she knows that I was too broke pre-job to do that. And I know X was obsessively checking my bank balance, which was going in the red every 2 weeks, so weird.
She said she's glad I'm so different from her dad. I said well women and men are different. Didn't know what to say!
I'll let you know about the movie-it looks good and I think it was made by the same that did Shrek and another good movie I can't remember. Just dropped the kids off. Had a good quiet day. Well, skank showed up at the dropoff with X. He had used her car before, but this is the first time she's been nervy enough to show up. It did bother me; don't know why. For one second, while my kids were out of the car, I considered ramming her in the butt, I mean her SUV. Bothers me that that bothered me.
I just sped off as always. I do think it's weird that OW looks just like X's mom, I mean she could be a clone, just 20 years younger though. She is my complete opposite physically and mentally, so I guess it was good X wound up with her. Well, for him, not necessarily our kids of course.
I've been emailing someone on eharmony. Wonder if it's too soon though, after tonight bugging me. But I just don't want to live anymore in the past either.
I've got to email X tonight to tell him about the mission project week (like camp) that S16 wants to do this summer. I put the brochure in S's backpack and I just plan to email him and tell him S wants to go, info in the backpack, and he can discuss with S. Short and businesslike, not sweet (like I used to do!)
I have jury duty tomorrow, my first time doing that. I'm thinking when it comes out that I'm married to but divorcing a prosecutor they'll let me go pretty quick though. It would prob. be interesting though.
Oh, I made beef stew for our dinner tonight; my first crockpot meal and the kids didn't like it very much! So D10 is going to ask X for his recipe that she likes (it has apples in it). She said she won't let him know mine was bad though.
She is too sweet. Like I said just remember crock pot meals take hours. Best to let them cook all day preferably at least for most of them.
I hope you didn't let skank bother you for long. Don't give them power over your life. I know easier said than done. I am sure that it was worse that you knew her before the A though.
You may just end up sitting around and waiting and still get paid without having to do anything!
Have a good evening!
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
You've never used the crock pot? Heck, I use mine at least 2 times a week if not more. If you want any ideas let me know.
Jury duty isn't always bad. It's a lot of sitting around but heck, my courthouse has laptop stations in the jury room and wi-fi. Sweet setup.
I know it's hard to see the ow with your xh, it still bothers me when I see them together (VERY rarely thank GOD!) and we've been D'd for well over a year. It will probably always give you a twinge but it should get less and less.
T19 M15 S19 XH47 M43 bomb12/4/07 PA5/07 S12/26/07 D final 11/17/08 Back together with no defined R 05/2010 confused....to say the least!!!
A crock pot seems to be a staple for single parents now of days. I've got a chili recipe and a spaghetti sauce recipe, plus a few others, that I have come to rely upon. (I just wish I could get my S's as interested in some of the great meals I can produce this way.)
