No worries. I think if people read this thread they will see what is what. It was the way things were being posted that made me start posting again. As you know, I only post infrequently these days, although I read along a lot of the time.
Forgot about that button - phew!!!! Sanity restored. Such a pity as I actually do agree with much of his content - just not the delivery, and all this petty "mudslinging^" smacks of being a five year old at school - bet that causes another one - lol.
My D is staying home now as term ended today> She is a lot better thanks - even though I got her pony to buck her off by accident yesterday {eyeroll}
I really wish he had addressed my posts in the tone that they were intended rather than the way he chose, in his quick reading of them, to assume they were intended. Pity - but life is just too short to deal with this stuff. Buried a 32yr old friend this week - think that trumps anything going on on here and puts it in perspective - 32 with a 2yr old D and another one on the way. Cruel.
Saffie me 46 H 46 M in 1986 D20,D18,S16,D13 H's A 01/05 to 07/06 H recommitted to M 07/06 renewed vows 09/06 Going from strength to strength
My goodness! That is terrible! What did he die of? We lost a co-worker at the real estate office this week. I was shocked. He was 59. It's scary how it all just comes to nothing. All this work, striving everyday to do this and that, and then bam! It's over. It really does give you pause to think.
How did you cause her horse to throw her? Or is it just that nothing can be the pony's fault because she loves him?
Saffie, it was HUMOR. With all due respect, LIGHTEN UP.
Jeezus.
Puppy
Sorry I got you into this pup.. but at least they have finally chosen to omit posts they don't have the stomach to read... it saves me a lot of typing to defend myself.
Oh, I guess I was the only one who did not find my browbeating humorous. Yes, I can still read your posts Puppy.
Oh, I'm sooo glad.
This is my last post on this thread. Go back and read two things:
1) Your first post, Lotus -- your very reason for starting the thread. It was A PERSONAL ATTACK, mostly on Allen, but also on me, Robx, Gucci, McQueen -- the "hardliners." All Allen did was DEFEND himself -- or, more accurately -- his POSITIONS (Harley, et al).
2) Note where I, Puppy, personally had Kum-ba-ya'd everyone yesterday, after I felt it was getting nasty and out of hand, and had pretty much ended it. Then look at who re-conflagrated -- it wasn't me, and it wasn't Allen. THE FIRE WAS OUT.
I'm done with the debate. I'm here to help Newbies, and Newcomers was pretty much where I had settled anyway, and that's where I shall return. The sad thing is, these people who are shouting down Allen, are NEVER AROUND TO HELP THESE FOLKS. Go back and look at his activity over the past month: he's provided 90% of the help to people in the Infidelity forum!!! And not just short, mirthful, snarky comments like I do -- long, drawn-out stuff where he really takes the time and puts in the effort. Yeah, I think his style is a little abrupt, and he comes across sometimes as a little thin-skinned and beats a dead horse to death, but he's HELPING people, when, frankly, no one else -- including the long-since-gone moderators -- was doing it on Infidelity! As DQ had to be to SSM forum, Allen has had to carry this thing by himself. And for that, he gets ATTACKED.
It's sickening, and frankly, you guys should all be ashamed of yourselves.
Just because you do not agree does not mean the thoughts are invalid. And if you do not read how can you debate the issue at hand? I am glad you got your marriage back on track. That is something to be proud of.
But this thread was an attack. I know why you posted it. I understand the style as well. I can read between the lines as well. It just expanded rather quickly. Sorry Allen , Puppy and others.
And I will never block your posts. For some times you say some beautiful thoughts. Such as this one.
The cornerstones of marriage are love, trust, commitment, and forgiveness. Without all four of those attributes, marriages fail. You cannot rebuild your marriage on distrust, grudge holding, and silence.
I know we disagree on the delivery of ending an affair and recovery. I am good with that. To each their own. But I also understand the great race. Lets leave it at that.
Flowers always make people better, happier, and more helpful; they are sunshine, food and medicine for the soul. unconditional love is awesome!
