Thought maybe I should clearify about being addicted. I did not mean that is an excuse or that she should be treated any differently. In fact, that is the reason you must show tough love. Being addicted is why she is likely to have more than one man over the Internet. Also, if she is "talking" to one or more now, then it will probably move into more sexual soon.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
