So I check my "who's viewed me" today and notice a certain "Divorced" 34 year old lady from Iowa. Do you have any advice for my stagnate profile? Should I put the picture with myself and posssum? How about a picture of fish I have caught?
Just kidding.
I think that I will be meeting a new lady this weekend - works in computer field, same age and same first name as myself. That should be different. And I winked today and received a wink back from a lady who needs a golf partner. I followed up with an email.
You need a golf picture of yourself setup to the ball.
Thanks Kerry, when it stops raining I will work on that...
Yeah, I unsubscribed to eharmony yesterday and then I went through my 28 pages of 'whos viewed me' on Match and removed 13 pages worth of guys. I have now removed 1270 profiles! I left Kerry and Jeff on there, I know we won't 'date' but I like seeing you!
I just decided to scale way back. Not sure I am ready for the whole dating thing anyway, so why wade through unnecessary possibilities??
You know that when you delete those guys, your are erasing their very existence in the universe. Pretty soon, Nebraska and Iowa wont have any men left and it will become an Amazonian kingdom.
<<I just decided to scale way back. Not sure I am ready for the whole dating thing anyway>>
It is not a sprint BBJ. You will know when you are ready. Maybe it will happen outside the e-world. It took me at least 6 months after moving out to get out to the buffet.
I hear you, John! I think that my personality is probably better suited to letting it happen 'naturally'. Not meaning I will just sit at home and wait for Mr. Wonderful to come ring the doorbell....
But as I get more involved in different activities around the community, I will be networking more and you never know what could happen!
Tomorrow is the big state speech contest, we are hosting this year in our brand new high school, which just opened in August. I am so excited! I will be going over to help set up after school, then I will be there from 7-7 tomorrow helping run the contest and support our competitors. Should be a lot of fun.
I kind of hate for it to be over after that, I have really enjoyed working with the high school kids and also hanging out with the other coach. He and I went to high school together and were in speech together so it has been a lot of fun catching up. We have similar senses of humor and the banter with the kids has been fun.
I left Kerry and Jeff on there, I know we won't 'date' but I like seeing you!
What? We aren't going to date?
I have pulled back a lot, too. I still look, but it will take someone pretty unusual to get my attention right now. I think once I found out that I could date, it was enough, for now. Though, on the other hand, I am feeling a bit lonely.
Well, Jeff, if you guys weren't 1000+ miles away....
I think that having the freedom to date is enough. That means if it happens, hooray! But I just don't feel the need to scour the match ads desperately looking for my new soul mate...
My standards are pretty high, and with little kids at home, I don't have a desire to go through a string of hook-up partners. (Not my style anyway...) So I will let things happen naturally and not get too concerned either way.
Although I, too get lonely. I mentioned that to my counselor. She encouraged me to get more socially involved, join some groups to make new friends, male and female.
I guess that I am lucky that I am an introverted sort of guy.
I do so much enjoy the quiet time.
But I would also enjoy a zombie outbreak.
Kerry, you are one of those multi-faceted guys, aren't you!
Don't get me wrong, I love my "ME" time. I used to feel selfish about it (thanks to the fact that I was raised by a Martyr Mom).
But now I have so many things on my to-do list...Running, workouts, reading, catching up on a couple TV shows, working on my budget (I am a nerd bc I like that)...along with the muist-do's like laundry, cleaning, etc. Right now I have things I want to do (Divorce Care class, go to the movies) that I don't even have time for!
Once Dan has the kids more often, I will do some more ofthat. I don't mind being by myself. I just like having someone around, too. When things are rough it would be nice to have a hand to hold, a shoulder to lean on, etc. And when I am in my feisty mode (like today) it would be awesome to have someone to play with---in more ways than one!
I am really high-energy today.....it's Friday, I have some fun things going on this weekend, and I wonder if not seeing Dan for 5 days isn't part of it too!
Almost forgot, speaking of my Mom (They need some kind of 'sigh-with-eye-roll smiley'!)
Last night I stopped by my parents' house bc Nathan wanted to say Hi and we were driving past anyway on the way home from his allergy dr.
Well she invited us to stay for dinner, so we did. Sydney was talking about her new Spin Brush (BIG DEAL for her!) we bought after the dentist...
I started telling my mom how I loved our pediatric dentist, she has an office decorated like a barn, very cool. I said, "She is from Southern California, cute, young, long blonde hair, and I can't believe the heels she can wear being on her feet! This time she had 4" heels in a zebra print. Too cute!"
My mom's reply?
"Well don't let their dad near her.........."
I said "Are you serious? That is so inappropriate. Nathan and Sydney are ten feet away..."
She brushed it off and said, They aren't listening to us. I said A)Kids are ALWAYS listening when you don't think they are and B)I don't ever want to hear her talking that way again...
So 30 minutes later I said something about speech bc they are taking the kids overnight tonight. She says, "How is 'Coach'"? She knew him from high school when we were speech kids together.
I say, "He is great."
Mom: Are you having fun?
Me: Yes, it is a lot of fun, wish I had done it last year.
Mom: Is he cute? (It took me a second to catch on. He was kind of geeky in high school and my sister had actually commented last week that he looked cute to her now--she had spoken to his govt class since she is an atty)
Me: Sure....
Mom: Is he married?
Nathan: (Looking concerned) Why does grandma want to know if he is married?
I just said, "No he isn't, but that doesn't really matter..."
Mom played dumb again and said, "I was just curious, I didn't know..."
I was so aggravated. I have told her before not to talk about any of that stuff, esp in front of my kids!
We left so the kids could go to bed, but I am a little concerned now. I hope she is not talking about my situation on the phone with her sisters while she watches my kids...
(They need some kind of 'sigh-with-eye-roll smiley'!)