SoftHeart, Please try to stick to one thread and not create new ones when new revelations take place. It is easier for the readers, as well as you in the future, to follow your growth, by using one thread and when your thread gets over a 100 or so postings, then create a new one.
Okay?
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.