Listen to the advice here DA. Sandi is very wise in the comments she has put up. Puppy will give great advice. It absolutely sounds as if there is some OM involved in some form. Whether it be PA/EA, it does not make a big difference in the long run of things. However, keep in mind, when it comes to a WAW, the EA can be the most dangerous. DA, can you put some info in your signature? Time together, kids? Have you consulted lawyers, counseling? Is she a stay at home mom, full time job? All these things will help others in giving advice.
Sorry you are here, but this is a good place to have found. Shock
not a good day asked me when were going to sign the papers, and I told her I had no intentions of signing any papers with D on them, I did say that I would agree to a seperation but she"s got her tail on fire to Divorce. She also said that me not signing was making her angry and resentfull, not sure what to expect from here.
me 46 w 42 m 18 years this april two boys 24 & 14 bomb nov. 9 2009 still fighting to hold on
I don't know how it works it your state, but it only takes one person to get a divorce in mine
once she files paperwork, you are served & provide an 'answer' and then 90 days later a court date is set (usualy 3-6 months down the road_)..
at that court date, if you & your spouse have not reached an agreement, then the judge will decide property settlement, child custody, child support, etc.. but at the end of the court date.. you are effectively divorced.
it will take longer if you don't "go along" but at some point, the one party can get the D papers.. with or without your signature.
Good luck & peace Bridge
Divorced 03/2010 Mom to two amazing kids
Taking the road less traveled because those encountered on the way may be just as unique.
some things i think might be in my favor money is tight and the savings will go to whoever moves out, so they can get a apartment, if wife spends the money on a attorney she is stuck in the house. her credit isnt the greatest that too might come back and bite her in the back end. I dont see why I need to make the paperwork easier for her when ive done nothing to deserve what she is putting me and my kids through. So i told her i would agree to a seperation and i wouldnt sign d papers.
me 46 w 42 m 18 years this april two boys 24 & 14 bomb nov. 9 2009 still fighting to hold on
Sandi and Pup should be listened to. It's obvious there is some type of 3rd party...that's why W is so motivated and the "clock is ticking"...I agree that you should not move out!
In the mean time do validate and work your 180's- ...and it will be a long bumpy ride...but many people have been here and it was not the end...so figure out what YOU want in the meantime
told wife today that i wanted a three month seperation, and if things havent changed between us that I would sign the uncontested divorce papers. this pissed wife off beyond any expectation that I had got into a big fight. Figurred this would buy me the four month reconciliation period plus a couple of months she didnt want anything to do with it. In fact she got really pissed, and we got into a big fight. Had to leave the house so that I wouldnt have to listen to anymore insulting comments. she has given me a time line of March 24 when she goes back tom work to sign the papers. Need;ess to say she has done a lot of name calling and seems to be more sure then ever to follow through with this bull sh___ looking for some advice.
me 46 w 42 m 18 years this april two boys 24 & 14 bomb nov. 9 2009 still fighting to hold on
She cannot force you to sign. I think you have every right to offer the option of 3 months nstick to your guns. Or give her the option if she is dead set on being done she have the clothes on her back and go. You do not need to bow to her every word. She wants to play hard ball then you can too.
