Question here..how long has it been since you think the A has been over. It sounds like your H is depressed & that could be for a number of reason, including post-affair blues.
Post Affair blues may be a possibility. I think this so called friendship with OW has ended maybe a month or two ago - not sure. H just seems so unhappy here and I don't know what to do. It almost seems that he is just always in a bad mood with me but not with others. It's as if I am always doing something to make him mad but I don't know what it is. He says he is not mad but still doesn't talk to me. I'm at a loss. Maybe I need to change something but I don't know what or how. I just feel that I can't go on like this. Lyn
Just wondering if you have read the threads that Sage started on the DR book?
It might help you dig into things and figure some goals you can set for the R.
Just a thought, since my H isn't home I have no good ideas on dealing with these problems.
Do you do a lot of things yourself, or are you kind of waiting to do things with him?
I'm wondering are you letting his moods control your moods and then the two of you sort of feed off of each other's moods. I know that is a past habit of mine and it is definitely better if you can detach your mood from his and maybe don't take his being upset personally. Maybe he is dealing with some depression or post affair blues, but it won't help if you are simply down as well.
I don't know if any of those thoughts will help you or not, but thought I would throw them out there, you know .02 or less worth!
Pam
"We must be willing to let go of the life we had planned so as to have the life that is waiting for us"
