So the STBX and I talked this afternoon. We were discussing if either of the kids wanted to stay with her tonight. S doesn't and D, maybe.
So she then goes and says "well it's your weekend anyway." I asked how do you figure?
She said that's how I drew it up in the agreement. I said that I wasn't aware that we had made an agreement; I saw your proposal. The kids have been allowed by both of us to stay wherever they like provided we can be available. I want to make sure that it stays that way; because this is their home. Their mother left.
MC - Ha! Are you trying to get me drunk? Last time that happened (accidentally) I ended up a dancing machine. Watch out!
Seriously... how are things w/YOUR kids?
I read back a bit. Gosh, I'm sorry for all of your chaos!
HUGS, friend! I can't imagine trying to explain the situation (new baby) to them, at their age, AND not feeling some kind of f'ing contempt for your W.
You're a gem!
Me-46, D-21, S15, S13
After many years w/my head in the sand... I FILED Divorced 6/2011
The average woman would rather have beauty than brains, because the average man can see better than he can think.
Kids are doing well. They are settled into the routine; though it might change a bit when the D goes through. We've had a pretty informal kid exchange; I expect that to continue for the most part...all depends on the W. I don't want to short change their time with her; but sometimes she's just too selfish to want them around.
Originally Posted By: mindfull
I can't imagine trying to explain the situation (new baby) to them, at their age, AND not feeling some kind of f'ing contempt for your W.
You're a gem!
Either a gem or a doormat...LOL
I've tried to give her the benefit of the doubt recently. She was intimating that she wanted to return all last summer and I figured that I'd let her prove it. She didn't want to after all.
I went through the contempt last year; now I think this kid might the only reason that I can truly let go. I have some issues of my own to deal with after a R with the type of person that my W is.
In the end...I want my kids to see parents that get along and are not bitter. I can do that; I pray that she can as well.