DIM- means that you are there but not there, you only have contact w/ W when she contacts you- and even then it's not an immediate response, or you can choose to reply or make contact if it's something you feel inclinded to deal w/ or talk about.
It's tough at first, but it will allow you to focus on you and begin to detach.
It also will allow her to experience some type of loss, and begin to possibly wonder what's going on w/ you.
When you do have contact you keep the 180's, no R talk, no OM talk- unless it's a boundary you are going to establish.
Here's the key- while doing this, you MUST be GALing (getting a life)- get busy, stay busy, be w/ friend, do new things, etc.
It's very easy to get stuck like I did, where I didn't feel like doing the things I needed to do w/ me.
Basically, you need to get your power back and your esteem back to where it needs to be.
It doesn't mean that your rude or abrupt when you do speak, but you keep it positive and brief. Don't give too many details about what your doing, and keep posting here
So now all of a sudden she is texting me asking about our kids. Which before all of this she never did. God I want to just ignore her but it feels like a heartless move to not answer her at all.
Man this is a......
I like all this empty space because i can now type out things that are important.
Like: D7 S2 starting swimming lessons on 3/30
"Readily will I display the intestinal fortidue required to fight on..."
