Quote: Friend of mine is wanting a Halloween costume party. How about we do that tomorrow on the Question thread so David can come as well? I am not too up on Halloween parties but will give this a shot and am hoping for lots of help here!!!!!!!!
Pam
"We must be willing to let go of the life we had planned so as to have the life that is waiting for us"
Quote: Ok doing more thinking. The party tomorrow will be a Fall Harvest Party!
This is the first year since David and I have been married that we have not had a Fall Party at our house. So I think this will be our Fall Party this year!!! And all of our wonderful new bb friends can drop by.
When we had this party at our house I always had the theme Fall and not Halloween. Don't want to offend anyone here, but I am going to post my reason as it is important to me and always was, even though I would have friends say oh you can get this and this and do this, it was all Halloween focused stuff.
Don't know if anyone has ever heard of Mike Warnke or not. He is a Christian comedian and ex high Satanist priest. He can tell stories that will make your hair stand on end. I have seen him twice and met him once.
He did a talk on the radio one time about Halloween. That is their main holiday. He said I'm all for fun and parties, but why give the devil the credit for your fun. That has always stayed with me.
So I'm not saying problem with any costumes! Just that the whole theme won't be ghosts and ghouls!!!
I haven't decided on a costume yet myself. Still debating it.
Hopefully since JJ is SPECIFICALLY invited to drop by he won't lock us down before we finish the party.
Working on planning menu and decorations. What we always did is David made a huge pot of chili and then folks brought other items to pitch in.
Now everyone be sure to bring your lawn chairs and dress warmly as the fire only reaches so far out and of course the evening wraps up with smores!!!
Pam
"We must be willing to let go of the life we had planned so as to have the life that is waiting for us"
I just wanted to throw out a few comments here now that the two of you are active on the BB.
Ceb never started his own thread either... not only because he couldn't post 100% privately but also because he wasn't comfortable getting support from the BB like this, he wasn't ready to work on anything really and he didn't feel like he had much to post about.
What he did end up doing helped a lot though! Basically he would make comments in regards to things I would post on my thread. If I had a misconception about the way he was feeling, he would correct it. If I was right about the way he was feeling, he would affirm it. If there was something I still wasn't understanding, he would try to explain it.
Why was the BB so effective? Because not only did I have to take the time to read the entire post and then think about it - he had to think about things while compiling the response and I had to think about things before compiling a response as well. The delay and the thinking processes really help to slow things down do you don't get caught up in the act-before-you-think mode and argue and completely forget what it is you were trying to discuss in the first place.
Also, the posts were always there for me to look at and remind myself of what was going on. We started to really communicate starting through the BB and then it moved on to emails and phone conversations as well (but at that point we weren't really talking so that was a big step in my sitch).
David, I think it would be helpful if you just stayed on this thread for now and respond to some of Pam's thoughts and feelings about you - correct her misconceptions, clear up your feelings for her and the rest of us, etc. Pam, I think it would be good for you to keep 2 separate threads because I think you still need a place of your own but if you feel comfortable, maybe you would like David to post there instead?
Btw- I still advocate seeking out some professional counseling.
....you still up??? Nah...You're dozin' by now...I on the other hand don't have an alarm clock awaiting me tomorrow 
And all of our wonderful new bb friends can drop by.
