Well it sounded like you were condemning her for doing things for herself like dressing sexy to boost her self-esteem and going out. This isn't being needy. She obviously has shown that she doesn't "need" him.
I saw you post to another person to get out of the house when their S comes home. This is the same thing.
She's just gaining back her self esteem and self respect.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
1. If you WANT to fight for your marriage - do NOT DATE OTHER MEN.
I KNOW some people will tell you H may get jealous. Yes, he very likely will. How will he respond to this jealousy?
a. He could end his affair with OW and ask you to make a committment to him b. He could pursue his affair with vindictiveness and a clear conscience
Which is the most likley outcome... A or B?
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6. Take care of yourself. Do NOT date. It's ok if you LOOK attractive and men invite you to dinner, but do NOT go with them. If you want a monogamous commitment from your H you need to SET a GOOD EXAMPLE of that... dating other men is NOT setting a good example of a mother and wife committed to her marriage... Your H must follow YOUR LEAD...
I can add more later, but right now the halfway db commitment needed to be said like a house on fire...
THIS is what I wrote above... there is more, but this is the relevant points from a cursory scan.
NEVER did I say don't go out. Never did I say anyone was acting needy.
"I don't tolerate being misquoted, particularly to the negative."
Yes Sir! I didn't realize you were being so positive when it sounded like you were ordering her to do things. "DO NOT...etc." Sounded just a little self righteous. But what do I know?
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
